[Interestinknowing]

My father and I fight consistently
My dad can be friendly but when he was young he could be violent and argumentative and sneaky
Now he's just a stern strict parent
Let me give you a little background he told
His estranged brother to get help, by force, by challenging him
To grow and my uncles angry response was I DONT NEED HELP my biological family is dysfunctional
Their parents would consistently argue, my grandfather would sarcasticly say i wish i could beat my old lady up so she stops nagging me. It was my way or the highway with my stubborn, nagging grandmother, always focused on flaws. My grandfather was avoidant, distant, sneaky, liked jokes, readers digest, cheerful,
My uncle is very damaged and angry from his narcisstic parents
He feels not loved
He cuts off ties from people and family he withdraws
A bit bossy
Analytical

My dad feels that abuse is normal and meant they loved each other
They came from a generation where you repressed your emotions

My dad tells me stories of his papa juan lopez sr with one look said stop the back talk children are to be seen not heard

type a demanding father ,calls me unhinged emotional outburst, gaslight you all his problems its all my fault, never want to leave the house, he says i aways want to travel, he is very controlling controls everything, says im not responsible enough with money, or essential cards, he controls the transportation

But he gaslights me to says all his problems are my fault then denies it. Hes very bold and confrontational accusing me of being a retard boy, lazy, and codependent

Hes very fiesty but has an unnerving way of playing the victim.
, but yet he expects perfection, and independence from me all on my own. expects he tries to teach me common sense, initiative, perfection, youre always never on time, he is always this is common senses for people liveing in the real world . He's very type a while i inherited my moms personality, creative, temperamental, dramatic, cheerful, talkative We got into a very violent argument today where he said going to walmart cuts into his alone time and time with his wife
And says shopping at walmart is an uncessary trip.
He spanked my sister one time talked to her and he said she became perfect
One time he flew into a rage and started beating me on the arm

[Skeezyks]

Hello Interestinknowing. Thanks for sharing your experiences. I see this was your second post here on PC. So I just thought I would leave a brief reply welcoming you to Psych Central. I hope you're finding PC to be of benefit.