[KMO31]

So, my friends have decided that I need somebody to keep me in line, keep me safe, and to generally look after me, so they've taken it into their own hands and arranged a date/relationship. They keep encouraging her, she's nice and everything but I'm not interested in her, but it's so far gone now that we're borderline seeing each other.

I'm dating this one girl, then seeing another girl, now this girl supposedly. Like I don't want her, I want one of the others, and we are actually really close *other dates* (Yes its probably wrong dating multiple girls) how can I go about saying I'm not interested, shes going to be everywhere now, and I'm so afraid of conflict.

[divine1966]

First of all it’s not wrong to date many people as long as you are honest and up front about it and don’t tell them you are exclusive. I don’t understand a reason behind dating someone you don’t like. If you don’t want to hurt her feelings tell her you aren’t ready for dating or are too busy. Don’t waste her time please.

Why would there be a conflict? If you think she is the type to cause problems if you stop dating her, then that is even bigger reason to be done. You don’t want to date someone who can’t be decent

[KMO31]

Originally Posted by divine1966

First of all it’s not wrong to date many people as long as you are honest and up front about it and don’t tell them you are exclusive. I don’t understand a reason behind dating someone you don’t like. If you don’t want to hurt her feelings tell her you aren’t ready for dating or are too busy. Don’t waste her time please.

Why would there be a conflict? If you think she is the type to cause problems if you stop dating her, then that is even bigger reason to be done. You don’t want to date someone who can’t be decent

With this girl, I feel like she is being used as a tool to protect me from myself, they are worried about me being lonely ect. She obviously cares a lot, we have had some really special moments, but I just don't personally see myself with her. Whereas these other two girls actually make me have butterflies when we meet. They are very special and I can see us going further, all girls know I'm actively dating but I always remind them why I am so attached to them, and that I appreciate them both in different ways. I know ultimately, someone is going to be hurt.

[divine1966]

I don’t think using anyone for any reason including keeping someone safe (unless it’s their job) is a proper thing to do.

[Bill3]

What if you are the one who is using her?

What if you are using her to protect yourself from the opinions of your friends?