[Icedgem]

8 years ago my best friend moved to Australia.
She's been back once since and that was about 5 years ago.

Our contact is quite sporadic and mainly wishing happy birthday or sharing some photos etc.

She sent me a message at Xmas saying she'll be back in the summer. Fab! I asked when she thought she would be thinking of travelling and for how long.. no reply. Ok.. I contacted her again about a month ago asking how her plans are going for her trip to come over, she replied saying she's booked her flight and will be here for 10 days. I responded and asked what dates; I'll try and get some time off work etc, no reply.

Aaaaaaaaanyway i just ended up putting it at the back of my mind.

She contacted me on Friday asking if I'm free on Wednesday as she's over in the UK now and her and about 3 other friends I used to know are all meeting up. I can't make it as I'm working that evening so I had to decline her request and asked how long she's here for and any other day she's free. I got no reply. So I contacted again today saying id love to meet up before she fly's back let's sort out a date. Reply back saying she's fully booked up now and the Wednesday meeting has now been changed to tonight as someone couldn't make it... No invite offer. Again I'm working so said really sorry I'm working.

I feel excluded as they've all obviously been in contact and making plans and I feel like such an after thought.

Not sure why I'm even posting this I just feel so sad

[divine1966]

It’s very sad. I am sorry you are hurting. But the reality is that I’d take it as a sign that friendship is kind of dwindled. it’s painful. Hugs

[MickeyCheeky]

I agree with divine1966, Icedgem. It is painful but sometimes friendships can just end! Perhaps I'm wrong. Do you have any other friends there? I certainly hope so! That will probably make this situation a little bit easier to swallow! Either way, I'm so sorry you're going through ALL of this! Try to keep in contact if you want to. Try to build friendships with people near you if you can. Let us know how it goes! Sending many safe, warm hugs to you and your friend, Icedgem!

[Icedgem]

Thanks for the replies.

It just took to back to my younger days when my close circle of friends would all go out but not invite me and I'd find out through seeing their photos on social media. It really hit me hard and I ended up deleting all my social media for that very reason

[Icedgem]

So my 'friend' has now gone back to the other side of the world. We didnt meet up. I called her and she didn't return my call, texts were in responded to and I've seen she's posting on social media all the fun she's had with all her friends while she was here.
Feels like a slap around the face

[WishfulThinker66]

You have done more than what you can. Obviously she has moved on. Please don't allow yourself to dis yourself over this. You are the better person.

[Open Eyes]

Sorry you did not have a chance to spend time with this old friend and could not join her and others because you had to work. It sounds like this friend was not very good at planning to make sure she could make time to see all her friends. It sounds like she did not give anyone much notice either and ended up having to do it that night because that's the only time she could get at least a couple of her friends out to have time together. You were asked remember, but you had to work and could not go. Also, these other friends may know how she is last minute and had to think about how they may only get to see her last minute too. Her communication was poor before she even arrived too. It sounds like she is a poor communicator and planner type individual in general that just flys by the seat of her pants. You cannot change how she is and she was probably always that way if you sit and think about it, somewhat scatterbrained.