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You and I have had this discussion before. I keep thinking you would be such a nice friend IRL and I would hope that I wouldn’t be needy and inconsiderate of you. Yes, I am working on what you have suggested. I am finding my own interests and spending time with people that way. I’m trying hard not to let my friendships turn into venting sessions. |
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I believe in you Sisabel! You are making healthy changes. It takes time and there could be a few natural bumps along the way but I think your efforts will pay off for you in time. Also, I want to commend your courage! I currently lack such courage. Had a trauma not too long ago, friends disappeared, and I put up my walls. I rarely talk to anyone other than my other half and PC folks now. I just mention because I admire your resilience and tenacity. I can't really complain because I gave up on the idea of offline friendship several months ago. I haven't given up forever but I'm being honest that I just don't have the courage or strength to try again now. So, by contrast Sisabel, I think you should really be giving yourself credit for your latest efforts. You can't win if you're not in...as they say
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Trying to be funny (but mean what I said though I get predictions wrong sometimes. Hope it worked. I am sorry about the trauma and friendship problems. |
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In the offline world, I am considered an extrovert, a helper, and the life and soul of the party if you can believe that. Didn't get me too far though...from a friendship point of view |
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I don’t talk about my “stuff” either with anyone anymore. I finally figured out that 99% of friendships are not for talking about issues. I finally came to PC to talk and work things out. I feel there is plenty of give and take here as well. And I’m also likely to get some honest advice which might even hurt my feelings sometimes but that’s the best advice sometimes... versus IRL friends have been known to either tell me what I want to hear or give me advice based on their own personal agenda. |
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I don't know if this is thread-appropriate Sisabel but I just opened some dark chocolate. Delicious. If you were here, I'd share with you and listen to your truth. Peace to you
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