[Kiwibunny]

Short story of how I got into this.
Connected with Someone I had previously loved again.
We were drawn in immediately with each other. He is married. Started relationship and he was going to move and leave her so we moved myself down closer to him.
Then she found out but instead of leaving, she suggested we all three be together. So that was 2.5 years ago. We have had so many issues. Mainly her and I feeling like the other didn’t really want be with them... insecurities, jealousy etc..
When it is good, it’s fun and easy and wonderful but when it’s not she and I get so accusatory and will have a huge fight via text.. then she shutdowns. I am to move in with them but until she and I can talk to each other, that’s on hold.

She jumps to conclusions very quickly. She ignores my apologies. She NEVER apologizes. She thinks I make everything about myself and I should understand that I hurt her feelings.
She is never complimentary. She isn’t reassuring. She will go days without texting and there are never phone calls.
I don’t know... I am so I know of her accusations of assumptions and that’s i don’t think about her feelings. That’s all I do!! I am constantly thinking of her feelings. How my actions or even presence effects her. She ants me to move in so we can try
to deepen that relationship but due to how much we don’t understand one another.. I need to feel like she wants me. Not just because of him. And I do want her. But she makes it so hard. She is quick to anger and doesn’t acknowledge when she has caused a serious issue. Never!

I just wonder if this thing will be good if I move in. If it isn’t... she think she knows everything. Motive behind actions, unwilling to do what she needs, moving in.

I love this man and I care for her a lot. But I’m tired of the constant misunderstandings causing the se huge issues.
Do I really make everything about me? What does that even really mean?

[Open Eyes]

Sorry but this arrangement is unhealthy from the get go so it's not surprising that it continues to be unhealthy. Two is company, three is a crowd is what you are experiencing with this. The selfish one in the picture is the husband who constantly keeps two women in this strange set up where they are competing with each other over him, where are his scruples? Clearly absent.

[Bill3]

Something unhealthy and unreasonable, something that has not worked in 2.5 years, is not going to suddenly start working.

My advice is to leave the guy and no longer participate in this unhealthy triad.