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Old Jul 07, 2019, 04:52 PM
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What is the best way in trying to resolve conflict with a Dismissive Avoidant if they refuse to listen to you and they shut down?

Especially if you told them you no longer want anything to do with them i.e no contact and no friendship. But you feel bad because they hurt you which is what resulted in you cutting contact with them.

How can you reach out and try to make amends?
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Old Jul 07, 2019, 05:05 PM
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Is that the same guy again?

You already reached out many times by different methods, he isn’t responding. If a person refuses to talk to you, I strongly suggest that you leave him alone.

If neither of you wants friendship or contact, and he is very clear about it in his words and actions, there is no reason to make amends especially since he isn’t interested in communication with you.

I’d also not diagnose people as dismissive or avoidant. Sometimes people just aren’t interested. I hope you are seeing a therapist to help you with these urges to keep contacting people who are not interested.

You are wasting your time. I suggest you look for new friendships and relationships with people who want the same as you. Don’t force yourself on people. Don’t pursue this man please as it’s just a waste of your energy

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Old Jul 08, 2019, 12:42 AM
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What is the best way in trying to resolve conflict with a Dismissive Avoidant if they refuse to listen to you and they shut down?

Especially if you told them you no longer want anything to do with them i.e no contact and no friendship. But you feel bad because they hurt you which is what resulted in you cutting contact with them.

How can you reach out and try to make amends?
If you feel bad and you need to get that off your chest, talk to a therapist.

You should allow yourself and the other person to move on.
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Old Jul 08, 2019, 03:53 AM
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Just remember that there is a genuine reason as to why you did this.

It’s up to them now if they respond to you reaching out.

You’ve left it up to them and it’s in their hands if they choose to move on.
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Old Jul 08, 2019, 03:57 AM
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If someone doesn't want contact, respect their wishes and move on.
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Old Jul 08, 2019, 06:13 AM
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I agree with the other posters. When someone has hurt you and your response is as strong as "I don't want to talk to you again", there's a good reason for that. Let sleeping dogs lie, as they say. Sometimes it's best to just move on and leave the past behind you. Make new friends, or nurture the other friendships you have more.
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Old Jul 08, 2019, 06:25 AM
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I agree with the others. It's their choice whether they want to reply back to you or not. I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Let them move one and try to move on yourself. Wishing you PLENTY of Peace and Love and sending MANY safe, warm hugs to you and ALL the people you Love and who TRULY Love you and Accept you for who you TRULY are!
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Old Jul 08, 2019, 11:37 PM
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If someone doesn't want contact, respect their wishes and move on.
I agree. Leave this person alone and talk to a therapist.
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