I finally stood up to my overbearing, cold hearted mother

She always told me I would never succeed, well I told her that I was accepted at nursing school but since she didnt think I would ever amount to anything shes not invited to the graduation. Shes not invited to my house. She says no guy likes me? I told HER no guy likes her. She doesn't want me at her house for Christmas well guess what the whole rest of the family is on MY side and is mad at her and voiced that. Look who gets the last laugh.....

Good for you, Junerain! As hard as it is to be excited about being coldhearted back to your family, I do understand this. I didn't invite my parents to my wedding for the same reason - they constantly called my fiance a 'loser' (what a judgmental thing to say about ANYONE, let alone my life partner, not to mention it was completely unwarranted) and even tried to fix me up with the son of one of their friends 2 weeks before my wedding. As if I was going to dump the man I love for some guy I just met. Anyway, they were upset with me for not allowing them at my wedding, but on some level I think they understood that it was directly resulting from their lack of support, and not because I didn't love them. I was able to calmly explain that I only wanted people at my wedding who were truly happy for us and who were there in the spirit of unity and celebration.

They started off equally critical of my brother's new girlfriend, but I reminded them what happened the last time they picked apart the significant other of one of their children, and they immediately changed their behavior. They are at least polite to her now, which is more than they were to my husband.

Anyway, good for you and congratulations about getting into nursing school! I will cheer for you from here when you graduate!

Junerain,

I'm sorry your mother is so cruel and emotionally abusive. Good for you for standing up to her.

That is so exciting that you will be starting nursing school soon.

I would try to stay away from her for as long as need be. I had to cut my mother out of my life in my early 20's for the same kind of issues. This move allowed me to heal, and emotionally recover from years of abuse and lies.

Please feel free to PM me.

EJ

I'd invite her to everything and rub her nose in it; get an older sibling to have the Christmas and invite you and "let" your mother come, etc. No way she can be queen bee at your or someone else's affairs. Be "kind" to her in a "has-been" sense. Treating her with pity would knock her off her high horse.

I am glad you have the last laugh it is just to bad it has to be that way. It would be so much better if your mom could tell you how proud she is and apologize for doubting you. I understand though cause my mom always told me it was my imagination that a man liked or loved me. Once again She who laughs last laughs best. And congradulations being accepted in nursing school. I am sure you will do great