[LadyShadow]

So long story short, my parents bought this house in my sister's name cause she had better credit. However, her boyfriend lost his job so they were forced to move in with us.

Her boyfriend has been toxic for as long as I have known, and instead of lashing out at him for not finding a job and drinking all day, my sister chose to come barging upstairs in a rage telling me and my mom that we are losers, we don't work and contribute anything while she is taking care of this freeloader.

Add insult to injury, I am incredibly hurt and really angry at the disrespect towards my parents. My parents left me to rot for 10 months in a psych ward without even visiting me and never taking my calls, and I would NEVER speak to them the way my sister came up here yelling last night.

I hate to say it, but she's had it easy. My parents shelled out hundreds of thousands of dollars for her education while I was on the street when I was a teenager. Those were my choices, but still, that always pissed me off. I had a really hard *&&&*(( life, now I have to take this kind of abuse and disrespect from this spoiled brat???? Me and my sister haven't been talking and I don't think we ever will again. Now she made my mother cry and I am beyond livid.

This is the push I needed to get my butt in gear and start working full time so I can move out as soon as possible. I have let this pain in the butt mental illness hold me back for way too long and have used it as an excuse as to why I can never achieve anything. It's time to grow up. I know in my heart my parents have been waiting for me to land on my own two feet so they can retire in Florida.

If I leave, it will be just what they have been waiting for.

Let that horrible person rot in Hell with her loser boyfriend.

I feel like setting their apartment on fire downstairs, that's how angry I am.

This entitlement generation bullcrap entered my god damn household.

With my disability I shell out $200 a month for the cable bill, what does my sister do with her $5000 month income???? NOTHING. Spends it on herself and her wino man rent-free.

And I'M THE LOSER??????

[happysobercrafter]

I hear you, LadyShadow. I am sorry you are going through this. It sounds like a giant tangled mess. Do you see a therapist or a counselor of some type?

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by HappyCrafter

I hear you, LadyShadow. I am sorry you are going through this. It sounds like a giant tangled mess. Do you see a therapist or a counselor of some type?

Thanks so much for replying my friend!

I do have a new therapist and I am going to try and see her next week, also maybe plan a beach day for myself.

Yes, it's so convoluted, but you know what? Fate and the Universe, and moreso Karma has found my sister.

I did a long application and test for a screening process for a Home Depot job out of the kindness of my heart for her loser boyfriend last week. Well, my dad just opened his email and the loser has an interview next week, THANKS TO ME. My dad went downstairs to tell them and I KNOW she is going to feel bad now. I am feeling better about it too. Karma is a real thing, and I am starting to learn that every day.

I don't wish him bad no matter what my sister did. I hope he gets the job, maybe then she would be less under pressure. Either way, I am making plans to get out of here by at least Spring next year.

Karma people!!!!

[MrsA]

My condolences for having such a rotten sister!

It seems to me that your parents gave your sister an unfair advantage while cutting you short and now she has disproportionate expectations about how the world works. My older sister is the same way. The parents spoiled her while being hard on me and she expected the entire world to trear her as if she was special. As an adult, she is prone to screaming tantrums over the slightest disappointments and blames me for the fact that she doesn't have more money.

As bad as I feel for your parents, I believe they did not fulfill the responsibility of protecting you or making sure your life was fair. Its admirable that you contribute to the family, but if I can offer some advice, try to save up money in a bank account that your family doesn't know about. I'm in loads of trouble because my family got control of all my money and now they make me work for free and I can't leave. You can still help your parents and give them moral support, but it is important to have control over your own life and be able to leave of you need to. I hope you won't take offense at my suggesting that your parents didn't do right by you. I just don't want to see someone else end up in trouble like me. Good luck. Take care of yourself!

[sarahsweets]

I am so sorry. That is terrible. I agree with the above poster that your parents didnt protect you the way they should have. I understand why you feel the way you do. What did your mom do or say during your sisters temper tantrum?

[LadyShadow]

You guys are absolutely right. A friend of mine said, and I believe it to be true, but by protecting and sheltering my sister the way they did, she has no sense of the reality of the real world and has this false sense of entitlement.

As for my mom, she was very upset and vowed to avoid my sister at all costs until they move, maybe longer than that. She defended herself and kicked her out of her room.

It's just a bad situation and honestly, once I leave, I am gone. I know there are people out there with no family and I feel guilty that I am throwing away mine, but having her in my life is detrimental to my mental health.

Thanks so much to everyone who posted, I have a lot to think about and a lot of work to do to move out soon.