[breewiz]

So... my husband might have Borderline Personality Disorder - which on one side of the coin is a great thing to finally realize. I almost instantly felt relief when I looked into BPD and found that so much of it applied to him because that meant we could get somewhere with treatment! However, on the other side of the coin, he works a job that makes consistent therapy an absolute nightmare. Her currently sees a counselor that he trusts and gets along with very well, but her hours are limited and due to the fact that he often travels for work there are weeks at a time where he could go without therapy, which obviously is not in line with the type of treatment he needs.

Another thing to know is that my husband is terrible at communication and hates talking to new people. Getting him to warm up to his current counselor was a huge process. So I'm concerned that if he had to seek a "mobile counselor" (i.e. a phone counselor, video chat, etc.) he might be opposed to it.

Any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks!
-Bree

[bpcyclist]

I am glad it sounds like you are making progress. This is just the experience of one, so take it with a grain of salt. But I was with a woman with bpd for many years. She never would get into treatment, go to DBT, nothing. In fact, she resented the very notion of the diagnosis. She would laugh it off and then run along to the more superficial interests she felt comfortable with. Needless to say, she has done an enormous amount of psychological, financial, and personal damage to me. I have no idea what is going on between you two in the relationship. I sincerely hope he is open to the idea of getting some help and working with a therapist, DBT program, whatever. If he is not, there may, unfortunately, be some rough sledding ahead. I hope not! Best of luck to you!

[bpcyclist]

Oh, and I don't think I ever explicitly stated it! I am in favor of DBT all the way. If it is available in your community. Good luck!

[Skeezyks]

Hello breewiz: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.

I'm sorry I don't know as there are any particularly useful suggestions I can offer. I think your husband's situation is one he, perhaps, needs to discuss with his current therapist in an effort to find a workable solution.

One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the Partners of People & Caregivers forum. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/partn...ivers-support/

You might also like to read through some of the posts in the BPD forum:

https://psychcentralforums.com/borde...lity-disorder/

And then here are links to 8 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of BPD:

Borderline Personality Disorder: Symptoms & Treatments

Men Can Have Borderline Personality Disorder, Too

Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

https://psychcentral.com/blog/living...lity-disorder/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/loving-...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-...sorder-part-1/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/6-gift...lity-disorder/

Also here's a link to a book (for sale on Amazon) that may be of interest to you:

https://www.amazon.com/Hard-Love-Und...fXxg&slotNum=0

I hope you find PC to be of interest.