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#1
I'm in love with someone who doesn't know I exist. I stare from afar, in my hand broken heart while I pretend...And it's you yes it's true...am I invisible?
I've fallen in love with a classmate I work closely with. We work together and we meet once or twice a week and call/text everyday. He's twenty years my senior, previously divorced, no kids. We've gotten to the point of hugging when we say goodbye, and I'm sure he knows of my feelings but we've never discussed it. I really don't know how to discuss it, especially if I think that if a romance will happen it will happen so slowly. I don't know how to move forward with my feelings, but I'm so hopelessly crushing on him. He's not showing any signs that he's interested in me, although in some aspects he does show he cares about me a lot. *sigh* What do I do...? |
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#2
Knowing him as you do, what do you think his response would be if you just fessed up and told him you liked him like that?
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Crowned "The Good Witch"
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#4
No, you are not invisible. If you’ve been giving off vibes that you are interested, there must be some reason that he is not getting more intimate.
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#5
Ask him in a face saving way- keep the drama to a minimum. A no doesn’t mean forever no.
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Crowned "The Good Witch"
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I'm also speculating on the age gap and his issue with the divorce...he may not be interested in seeing anyone at all not just me. |
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#7
Those are probably the reasons.
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#8
I myself would never date my boss no matter how I might feel about her.
Also, a boss is unwise to express interest in someone who works for her/him. You might consider him an equal, but if you “technically” are his boss then you are his boss and if you were to pursue him you would leave yourself open to a sexual harassment claim if he didn’t like his assignments, performance review etc. You could also face criticism from your superiors even if he did not make a claim against you. |
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#9
Unfortunately you won't know for sure if you don't ask Him, @LiteraryLark!
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