Heart Break

I took a really painful heart smash recently. The other party gave me an opportunity for closure via a phone call where I let it all out. To my surprise that made me feel worse. Rehashing all my pain to someone who has moved on.

I am not here for a pity party. I am here looking for fun, stellar ideas on how to move forward. Yes it hurts, yes it will take time to get over. In the mean time, give me your tips, tricks and ideas on how to heal myself and refocus on the positives.

Add anything you can think of. I know I am not the only one who is, has or will go through this.

Heart break support station.

Go for a walk.
Talk to a friend.
Let your friends give you platonic affection. Like hugs and stuff.

It depends what you like to do. I was single for 5 years, intentionally, after leaving an abusive relationship.

I rekindled my love of horses, went to concerts with other single friends, started beading/making necklaces, started taking an exercise class, scheduled regular sessions with my counselor. I went on a cruise, by myself.

It sucks, but you will get through it.

Get out and exercise. Go to a movie. Go to the zoo. Go to a concert or the opera or the ballet or a comedy club. If you live in a rural area, go to the city. Go to a Meetup outing. Take yoga. Cat yoga. Ride a bike. Take some cooking classes. Bake. Go hiking or running. Write in a journal. Write a book or short story or some poems. Go to a wine tasting. Find a group therapy group to join. Start collecting something. Practice mindfulness/read about it. Meditate. Learn about breathing and Buddhism. Go to church or temple or the mosque. Take a trip somewhere cool. Sign up to rock the infants at your local maternity ward. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or Habitat For Humanity. Buy some comedy DVDs and watch them. Binge watch a season or two of a show you've been wanting to watch. Go snowboarding or skiing as soon as there's snow. Go fishing. Go to the self help section at your best bookstore and find something to read. Get a good novel while you're at it. Paint or sculpt or blow glass. Take classes in these activities. Plan out a really special trip you have always wanted to go on and then go do it. Learn how to fly. Go to the beach for a quiet week or weekend. Rides horses. Get a cat or a puppy or some other animal you like. Learn about CBT and REBT and DBT and Shame Resilience. Volunteer at your local hospital. Get involved in a cause like climate change or homelessness or spousal abuse or battling white supremacy. or women's rights in the Middle East.

I am sure there are a lot of other activities, but these are a few that came to mind. I am so sorry you are hurting. I guess the bottom line for me when I have felt similarly to you now is to not isolate--as much as that is possible. Isolation makes everything worse when I have felt the way you do. Getting active, even though you don't want to, is, I think, the path to feeling better. I also really like yoga and mindfulness and meditation and Buddhism, even though I am a Christian. I find it to be very practical. I hope you feel better soon!!

Ice cream with pie. 🤔. Works all the time.

((((Hugs)))) Thinking of you. Just remember what a beautiful person you are.

You have a great attitude. It will take some time, but you’ll feel better soon. I think it was their loss, because you sound awesome!

I try to boost my mood when feeling really low.Deep breathing,meditation,prayer,stretch, aromatherapy,walking,talking to myself ,knitting and other crafts,writing,reading,just sitting with out any thoughts,imagining a good future,smiling at people things like that.If cannot avoid ruminating about past,I just let my mind wander,let the sadness build up then I cry and wail until the burden on my heart is lifted. Crying once in a while brings me great relief,but I only resort to it when all positive actions fail.

You received a lot of good advice. I just wanted to praise your attitude.

Dear SadGirl, I think you know by now that many members here care about you, including me. I think it's a good idea to keep on doing what you've been doing. You're doing great. I see you seeking advice from others, & it's paying off. Isn't that wonderful? I love that. I'm wishing you all the best! Lots of hugs & love to you!!

Outch I had that happen to me. I had to remind myself that there was no way that I could have possibly known and no one but me knew about the embarrassment. I had to remind myself that I will be okay. Take yourself out and do something nice for yourself.

That is great advice. I wish that I had that about that myself