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Oct 07, 2017, 06:09 PM
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How would you all feel if.. you have always been there and been involved in the lives of your now Adult children, who now have families. We have never had any quarrels... Their father & I would drop anything We're doing to help them out in any way.. Then when special occasions come up, they shrug us off, decline our invites... saying, like.. We want to spend a quiet supper together alone... or they invite other family over for the holiday for supper/events, and the only way we find out is when we are told they can't come to our house since they have other family invited over for supper.... but we could come too, if we want.... Feeling like we are second rated, insignificant in their lives....
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 Anonymous40643, Anonymous57777, Bill3, hvert, MickeyCheeky, Shazerac, Sunflower123
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#2
Oct 09, 2017, 04:51 AM
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 I have no pearls of wisdom here, but I wanted to say that I'm really sorry that you're having to go through this!
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Oct 09, 2017, 05:04 AM
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 I've been throught this, as well. I'm sorry
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Oct 09, 2017, 05:32 AM
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I'm sorry, too... I know that as an adult, I started to decline my family's invites too and wanted to do my own thing many times when my family had gatherings. I don't really have any answers but wanted to offer my support. (((((Hugs)))))))
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#5
Oct 09, 2017, 11:13 AM
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I don't have any nuggets of wisdom either. Just wanted to give you a hug
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Oct 09, 2017, 03:47 PM
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How utterly cruddy of them. How disrespectful, hurtful, and unthoughtful.
I've a few ideas. Get in there and make the invitations as early as possible. Put them on the spot; if they say they already have plans then tell them when the next holiday will be planned and that you expect them to attend. Put the ball in their court and ask them when they are available to celebrate the holiday in question. What a great opportunity to establish new traditions. Celebrate alternative days. for instance instead of Christmas have a Solstice dinner or Boxing Day luncheon. |
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#7
Oct 09, 2017, 11:51 PM
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Excellent advice. You could also bring this up to them and get to the bottom of it. Good luck and best wishes.
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#8
Oct 10, 2017, 02:08 AM
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Have you tried telling them this? (The title of the thread)
I would feel sad, like I deserved to be important just like anyone else. |
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#9
Oct 10, 2017, 02:21 AM
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I am an RN who is now not working and on permanent disability (SSD) for PTSD. Current meds: Buspar Citalopram Quetiapine (for sleep) I currently isolate everyday. I am ok with that, but some times feel lonely. However, I do not want to have a relationship in the real world in person as people make me nervous. I have trust issues. 
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Nov 16, 2019, 02:11 PM
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Thanks for all the support.. things are somewhat better.. But we’ll see what this Festive season brings😐
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| Anonymous49105, Bill3
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