[Sadia1994]

Hi
I am just in a bit of dilemma as to what I should do
My bf of one year treats me very well however he lied to me about several unnecessary things:
He told me his sister studies dentistry when she studies pharmacy, he showed me the house where he lives but he showed me thr house opposite his house which is bigger, he lied to me about dropping out of uni twice before he met me , and lied to me about his age and that he is one year younger Han he really is. These are such unnecessary lies and I don’t know whether I should ignore them or worry that he might lie about big things in thr future.And I would also like thr know the possible reasons as to why he is the way he is .

[s4ndm4n2006]

Considering the list that you have of things that he's lied about, and even more so the number of things he's willing to lie about, I would say it's very likely that he lies about many things and I doubt that it's difficult for this person to lie whether it's a big one or a small one.

you say in one sentence that he treats you very well but how is consistently deceiving you left out of that equation? if he lies about all those things, doe he really actually treat you well? something to ask yourself. being lied to is a big deal even in one instance but at this level it's huge. for me? I'd be out of there because if I can't know that the person that's supposed to be closest to me is honest with me, how can I feel secure in the relationship at all?

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Sadia1994

Hi

I am just in a bit of dilemma as to what I should do

My bf of one year treats me very well however he lied to me about several unnecessary things:

He told me his sister studies dentistry when she studies pharmacy, he showed me the house where he lives but he showed me thr house opposite his house which is bigger, he lied to me about dropping out of uni twice before he met me , and lied to me about his age and that he is one year younger Han he really is. These are such unnecessary lies and I don’t know whether I should ignore them or worry that he might lie about big things in thr future.And I would also like thr know the possible reasons as to why he is the way he is .

So a year of lies , how did you find out he was lying ??

I have no use for a liar. I don’t care how well he treats you if he lies that means he has no respect for you. Without respect there can not be a healthy loving relationship.

[TishaBuv]

“an inveterate liar, gambler, etc. someone who does something very often and cannot stop doing it: I never trust anything he says - the man's an inveterate liar.“

Especially because his lies are slightly off and for no real purpose, I get the feeling he compulsively lies, an inveterate liar. I would not believe anything he says. Who wants a relationship with someone who you can’t trust at all?

Another possibility is that he intentionally told you those lies because he doesn’t trust you, maybe just met you, maybe he’s hiding something and doesn’t want you to know facts about him.

Either way though, you caught him in several lies and that’s never a good thing.