[Aviza]

I was blowing him off but I kind of like him. He has a good job and is intelligent. However he says what he thinks and he's judging me.

I have another first date tomorrow, he wants to see me again he says. But he doesn't trust me because he knows about first date sex guy last week.

Not sure if I should even try with him. Guess I'll just have to see if I hear from him.

[Aviza]

Nevermind he's not looking or anything serious.

[~Christina]

How does anyone else know about your having sex with someone ??

Are you telling them?

[Aviza]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

How does anyone else know about your having sex with someone ??

Are you telling them?

He asked questions and I gave answers. I'm not going to lie. But his profile said he was looking for long term and he told me nothing serious. So he's lying in his profile.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Aviza

He asked questions and I gave answers. I'm not going to lie.

It's not a matter of lying. It's a matter of boundaries. What he is asking is none of his business at this point in the relationship. In asking you, he could be kinda bullying you. Trying to claim all the power in the relationship. Do you think he never sleeps with someone on a first date? I would think everyone who dates has at some point in their life.

Maybe it was on your mind and the conversation led that way. A male t of mine once told me that guys will ask for it, just to see what they can get away with. At the time, almost 20 years ago, i had very bad boundaries - i was still being bossed around by my mother, had not cut the cord yet - and his answer distressed me very much. I wanted men to do my boundary work for me.