So, unbeknownst to me, my roommate's two best friends and her ex-husband showed up with dinner and asked my roommate to sit down with them in her kitchen. They did an "intervention" (this is going for 5 years already) where they asked her to listen to them. They suggested she go on medication, and go to outpatient treatment. She hasn't said anything.

I did use this moment to ask my roommate, in front of them, if she'd consider letting me stay until May 1st. I repeated that I would continue to pay her rent, care for her cat, do the housework, etc.,. and I hope it's too my advantage that I asked her this in front of her ex-husband and her two best friends.

One point they made to her tonight, which I thought was good, is that they told her, "We can't keep going on like this anymore. You need to participate in your own self-care and be willing to try what we suggest."

[Arialside]

What is the question?

[bpcyclist]

Well, Blanche, I really hope she takes the suggestions here. I didn't realize you were looking at moving soon, but then, my brain is not firing on all cylinders. Hope this works out for you.

Hi @bpcyclist, Well, initially I was supposed to only rent from my roommate for 2 months. That turned into 5 months.

Since her son now lives with her ex-husband permanently, she has a huge empty house.

My need for stable shelter with 3.5 months of unemployment UI benefits left with no full-time job, is why I decided to carpe diem quam minimum credula postero (seize the day, trusting as little as possible, in the future) by asking my roommate to consider extending my stay as her tenant until May 1st, in front of 3 important people in her life (her sister lives out of state).

They all know me (1 of my roommate's 2 best friends knows me well by now). Since my roommate is not functioning, non-communicative with me in general (staying in her bedroom all the time), my hope is that she'll just agree to it. That's my hope.

My career counselor sympathized with me today. She told me she has other clients in my situation, whose lives fell apart when they became their parent's caregivers. The hard part comes after you place your parent in memory care. Now, you have to put your life back together. And if you're someone like me with no savings, and no job, no stable housing then it's easy to relate to Sisyphus. My "rock" that I'm pushing uphill for what feels endlessly, is the pursuit of a "full-time job." I really don't want to be in this situation for all eternity. Even if I can find an an interim job that pays enough for rent of a cheap studio -- that's better then my situation now.

I guess I posted without asking a question but as more of an update...

Sorry to hear you had a bad day today. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Thanks for your encouragement.