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Jan 08, 2020 at 06:14 AM
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I'm hooked....very long story cut short, I have known and been with a guy over 20 years. I know he's no good for me. We fight, split, come back together, and repeat for all eternity. My friends and family all say, keep/get the hell away.
I'm a fool, I love him. I say I'll leave, but I never do, I never go, or end it. Anyone relate? Yup, I know, it's a ludicrous, crazy situation. I can't live with or without. ....Am I the only one? 
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Jan 08, 2020 at 06:55 AM
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When we feel like this, we might be attracting what we are or the mirror (opposite) of what we are. When you fight or think you want to leave, my advice is to withdraw from him/don't react and instead of focussing on the relationship--focus on loving yourself, finding a project or work that is fulfilling, do things for yourself--fitness, nutrition, meditation, reading, etc. It is an illusion to think that others can make us happy. Focus on yourself and not him because none of us are perfect. Find happiness within and then what you need to do regarding this relationship will become less confusing.
 
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Jan 08, 2020 at 07:06 AM
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Well, if you love him and it's abusive, you must be getting something out of it when he's not abusive, I would imagine. And enough to keep you there.
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Jan 08, 2020 at 08:15 AM
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 You're not alone in your battling couples situation--but people in the peaceful fulfilling relationships are not alone either. Which group would you rather join? |
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