[Moonchild21]

This is a very petty situation...

my boyfriend & I made a playful bet as we always do. But this time we bet money ($5) I knew the answer to the question well before we made the bet & I told him that but he insisted we find out the answer. Came to pass I was right. But instead of him saying “you’re right & I was wrong” he says “you’re not right either” what pissed me off is that I know what I said it wasn’t even 5 minutes had passed. So then we were arguing I only got angry because I truly felt like he was trying to play with my mind. Anyone would hate for someone to make it seem as if your the one whose tripping but you know your right. He’s very self righteous & believes he’s never wrong. .I know I was right & he could not tell me different. So we didn’t communicate for a day after that.

I’m usually the one who initiates the conversation after a disagreement. I call him & he says that he wants some space. So I asked “whats space?” He says “I need 3 days to myself I need time to miss you ” I can respect that so I’m giving him his space but hearing that really hurt my feelings. (I’m overly sensitive)

I hate to be vulnerable because I’m at his mercy.... to me in this case it’s counterproductive.. when he does decide he’s ready to talk again I’m not gonna feel the same & withdraw..

[Have Hope]

My advice: Withdraw and longer than 3 days. Perhaps withdraw permanently. If someone is going to be THAT petty with you over a silly thing like who was right in the bet and who was wrong, that's seriously immature. He needs to seriously grow up. How old is he and how old are you?

[Moonchild21]

I’m 23 & he’s 25

[Have Hope]

He's immature and petty. I personally wouldn't want to be with someone who is going to be SO ridiculous over a BET.

[ArtleyWilkins]

Too much drama. Is this really worth it? He doesn't particularly sound terrible invested in the relationship -- he's manipulating you.

[Bill3]

He’s very self righteous & believes he’s never wrong.

What do you see in him?

[Fuzzybear]

I also think that he is manipulating you. I would withdraw from him, and consider doing so permanently. He does not sound committed or invested in the relationship.

Sounds like a lot of drama. Ask yourself why you think he deserves your time and energy. Does he? What's so great about a boyfriend who belittles you and emotionally manipulates you and gaslights you. You're young. You have so much time to find a better boyfriend than this guy. Don't attach yourself to garbage. Don't settle for less than what you deserve.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Bill3

What do you see in him?

[~Christina]

What are his good qualities ?!

[sarahsweets]

If something that seemingly simple causes strife think about what would happen if it was something major?

[Bill3]

I call him & he says that he wants some space. “I need 3 days to myself I need time to miss you ” I can respect that so I’m giving him his space but hearing that really hurt my feelings. (I’m overly sensitive)

In other words, he is giving you an (at least) three-day silent treatment.

It is completely understandable that you would find that hurtful. I think anybody would! I myself certainly would be hurt and upset if a partner gave me a three-day silent treatment.

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by Moonchild21

This is a very petty situation...

my boyfriend & I made a playful bet as we always do. But this time we bet money ($5) I knew the answer to the question well before we made the bet & I told him that but he insisted we find out the answer. Came to pass I was right. But instead of him saying “you’re right & I was wrong” he says “you’re not right either”what pissed me off is that I know what I said it wasn’t even 5 minutes had passed. So then we were arguing I only got angry because I truly felt like he was trying to play with my mind.
This is called gaslighting. He is messing with your mind. It’s abusive.
Anyone would hate for someone to make it seem as if your the one whose tripping but you know your right. He’s very self righteous & believes he’s never wrong. .I know I was right & he could not tell me different. So we didn’t communicate for a day after that.

I’m usually the one who initiates the conversation after a disagreement. I call him & he says that he wants some space. So I asked “whats space?” He says “I need 3 days to myself I need time to miss you ” I can respect that so I’m giving him his space but hearing that really hurt my feelings. (I’m overly sensitive)No you aren’t. You are normally sensitive to bad treatment and being told you are ‘overly’ by an abuser.

I hate to be vulnerable because I’m at his mercy....
No you aren’t. You are in control of yourself.
to me in this case it’s counterproductive.. when he does decide he’s ready to talk again I’m not gonna feel the same & withdraw..

Different people would react different than you in this situation. If my bf gave me the silent treatment and told me he needs 3 days break from me, I’d tell him to take a forever break from me. Bye bye! You can do better.

[divine1966]

This dude is full of it. Needing space would be have an evening out with his friends or go to gym alone. Not not talking for 3 days. He got to go. No good