Thinking Negative about Relationships

I feel like because of PTSD, that I won't ever get involved in a relationship or that nobody will ever want to be with me because of it. There's guys that I did like, but in the end nothing happened. It made me feel very sad. I'm not desperate or looking for a relationship, I just strongly believe that nobody will want to get involved with me or love me because I have PTSD. So I am thinking negative when it comes to Romantic Relationships. I doubt anyone will want to get involved with me or possibly love me.... This makes me feel really sad.

((((((Amethyst_Stargazer)))))), this is actually how a lot of people that suffer from PTSD feel. Often the ptsd involves being hurt or abused by another person too. This often contributes to how someone who suffers from ptsd can be extra sensitive and vulnerable, often to a point where they withdraw, avoid and tend to have to work extra hard when it comes to feeling safe having any relationships that involve sharing personal space.

As Open Eyes said, it certainly is to be expected. It's one of the cruellest parts of our condition; the way we sometimes dread this kind of intimacy, which we know in our hearts could be very healing.

In reality, being highly-sensitised to the world doesn't make us less attractive. In fact, I'm very drawn to people who think a lot, and feel deeply.

I'm not underestimating the power of those critical voices telling you that nobody will want you. I had them, too, and was convinced I'd be single forever. It all seemed too scary, apart from anything else.

I agree with all the lovely responses. I’m recovering from PTSD so I’ve chosen to be single for now (personal choice). And what I’m learning is the more I accept and fully acknowledge my story and my wounds, instead of trying so desperately to be normal and be like every other confident woman out there with no painful past. I find the acceptance of it makes me less ashamed of what was in my past. I embrace how it’s changed who I am and even when I’m triggered in new situations I’m learning to not run from the triggers but have that compassion of “Oh okay, I know why I’m feeling like this. I’m okay, there’s no threat here”

It’s a part of us and it’s made us so much more empathetic towards others (a great skill for relationships). So don’t be afraid to approach people and when you are comfortable with them on a friendship level to tell them your story with great pride and love for how far you’ve come. It doesn’t make you a weirdo, it just shows how much capacity you have to love even after so much pain.

Blessings ♥️♥️♥️

I'll tell you: I have depression, anxiety AND PTSD. I've had plenty of relationships and then eventually got married. My husband also periodically suffers from depression and anxiety. We're compatible because we both understand one another and our conditions also do not take over our lives. I am being treated because mine is more severe than his.

The key I think is to get treatment for your condition and to be taking care of your condition. Others don't mind so much as long as you're receiving treatment for it. It shows that you're taking good care of yourself by doing so, and that's what matters most in a relationship. It doesn't have to be a dealbreaker OR an impediment.

I know you're not looking or desperate, but I think it's faulty thinking to believe you cannot be loved or in a relationship because of your PTSD.