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It seems like misfortune begets misfortune. One bad event can give rise to other stuff. Like the incident at Arby's where my supervisor had me canned caused my mental breakdown.
1. I lived on my own at that time and I immediately ceased to function. I cut classes to get wasted. On my days off my remaining job at Sam's Club, I would sleep all day. I would also call home EVERY DAY when my breakdowns overwhelm me. 2. When my breakdowns physically rendered me unable to speak, I started acting out at Sam's Club. It cost me my job eventually. 3. My BF who I met at Sam's Club quit his job and went to work for Arby's. That triggered me like hell, so I broke up with him. So now I can't live on my own and I'm single. I can't trust anyone. I've now been working at McDonald's for 2 years and I'm constantly worried that someone will suddenly turn on me. |
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I sometimes get fooled by myself into feeling this way, but really, I think this is just all random events just happening. That's just me.
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Check your thought life. What do you spend your time thinking about?
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What does your T say about how your feeling?
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Sometimes events lead to one another and sometimes they are random. Some things happen because we cause them to happen so they aren’t really bad luck.
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Ruby, I know many bad things happening can feel overwhelming, but having read and conversed with you on a number of your threads, I feel you are rewriting the narrative of what happened to justify maladaptive behaviors, instead of seeing your own part in these things.
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I’m on the the cusp of deciding whether to move out on my own or not. And my folks are pushing me to date again. I don’t have the confidence.
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I haven’t been in therapy in awhile. Things been fine but my folks are pressuring me to date recently. I don’t want to date and I never want to move out again. They seemed to forget the past events that rendered me permanently dependent on family.
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Ruby you need to own your own behavior, it's not bad luck it you acting out. Go back to therapy and work on accepting responsibility for your own behavior.
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Well people should not date until they get a good handle on there life and are working and doing well.
You don’t need a boyfriend /girlfriend to move out. Maybe your caseworker can help you find roommate situations. You can’t stay with your parents forever after all. You need to be independent. Don’t go back and fall back into the “ poor me” mentality of losing you job at Arby’s and others they were caused by YOUR actions and yours alone. Move forward, go to work be pleasant and go home.. start a savings account so you will have some savings so you can move out __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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Could you discuss moving out options with your case manager? Would you qualify for subsidized housing?
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With a statement like this, you should definitely go back to a therapist. Why are your folks pressuring you to date? Are they thinking it will get you to move out to find someone to take you away? You feel “permanently dependent” on them? This is very troubling, Ruby.
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