[ladyconfused]

In 2016 I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder 1 and OCD tendencies. I had a conversation where a friend confessed he liked me. I told him it’s not like I never thought about it. When he asked if I like him more than my husband I told him absolutely not. That I was madly in love with my husband. That he’s my best friend. I’m a little wanky about medication right now. But I never told my husband that I said “it’s not like I never thought about it.” Now it’s tearing me apart inside and I feel like confessing but I’m afraid of losing everything in my life. Mostly my husband. The love of my life. It didn’t mean anything when I said it. I just kinda... said it. I actually got the saying from a Family Guy episode where Brian confesses his love for Lois. And she says she can’t be with him but it’s not like she’s never thought about it. There was no emotional attachment or anything. Nothing. I felt nothing.

[lizardlady]

Hon, I believe most of us have "thought about it". It's not cheating. It's being human.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by ladyconfused

In 2016 I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder 1 and OCD tendencies. I had a conversation where a friend confessed he liked me. I told him it’s not like I never thought about it. When he asked if I like him more than my husband I told him absolutely not. That I was madly in love with my husband. That he’s my best friend. I’m a little wanky about medication right now. But I never told my husband that I said “it’s not like I never thought about it.” Now it’s tearing me apart inside and I feel like confessing but I’m afraid of losing everything in my life. Mostly my husband. The love of my life. It didn’t mean anything when I said it. I just kinda... said it. I actually got the saying from a Family Guy episode where Brian confesses his love for Lois. And she says she can’t be with him but it’s not like she’s never thought about it. There was no emotional attachment or anything. Nothing. I felt nothing.

No! I wouldn't consider this cheating.

[Bill3]

You did not cheat.

[Have Hope]

No.. you didn't cheat. You made it known that you lpve your husband. You drew a line in the sand by letting that be known. You did, in my opinion, perhaps cross a bit of a boundary by letting this man know you've thought about it, but it's not cheating and you did nothing wrong. I wouldn't mention it to your husband though... just my own two cents. It's not worth mentioning or worth stirring up trouble over, especially right now during this pandemic and difficult times. Plus it was in 2016.

You did not cheat at all.

[s4ndm4n2006]

That's called temptation. Temptation isn't cheating it's the prospect of it. many, if not most people have considered the same thing. The definition of cheating is acting upon it and carrying it out.