[bpforever1]

Hi,

I have been ghosted and also have been ghosting others because I don't know how to end the situation without hurting the other party's feelings.

What is the polite way to end a meeting with a man? Ghosting? or make up some excuse? or tell the truth that I'm not interested?

Ghosting seems to be the current way of ending meeting someone.

I don't like it myself but realize that ghosting involves less confrontation and does not lead to any exchange.

What do others do to end meeting people?

Thank you!

[Iloivar]

In most cases, I don't think there's a way to end the situation without hurting the other persons feelings. The main difference is that if you're upfront about your disinterest, there's a higher possibility for confrontation. But it's arguably the most considerate way of ending things, and even with the other two options, they could still confront you about it.

With ghosting, they'll understand a some point you're not interested. But for a bit they will still think you are. The same applies for making an excuse, depending on what it is. I'd imagine the best type of excuse would be something geographically related. But it's difficult to pull off a good excuse without it coming off as a lie. What did you have in mind?

And what's the guy like? As another poster said, it also depends on the person you're ending things with.

[ARaven0137]

I would say it depends. I've had some where the man was mature and polite and we just didn't hit it off. I told him up front and that was that. Or, I've had a few that were a polite goodbye and then we just never reached out to each other again and I was fine with that. I've mentioned a friend turned stalker and I ghosted him finally, but he always finds a way to keep stalking me.

[Have Hope]

I find ghosting to be more hurtful and most rude. I hate it when people ghost. When you've spent time and energy talking to someone, it's like the biggest slap in the face.

Honesty can hurt, but it doesn't have to -- you can let the other person down in a softer, gentler way. Like: "you seem really nice and I'm sure you're great, but I just don't think we're the best match. I wish you all the best though in your search for the perfect match!"

To flat out just write "thanks, I'm not interested" is more hurtful and a slap in the face. It's all the way it is written. If it is said and written with kindness, the other person will take it far better.

[MsLady]

Sometimes I think it's unsafe to tell a person to their face we're no longer interested.. especially if we've met them online and we're still in the getting to know you stage.

I would end the night with a positive and let him know you'll talk with him soon. Then via phone call, be honest.

Just say something like, "It's been fun getting to know you. I'm not sure I see a future together though. I hope your next lady will be everything you're hoping for. Thanks for the ___."

Cheesey? lol

[TishaBuv]

Tell them you have to go. Tell them you are busy. It’s okay to tell them you aren’t interested in them romantically. Don’t contact them anymore and don’t engage in more conversation with them when they contact you. Repeat steps above. They will get the hint.

I also find ghosting to be really cruel. I only suggest blocking when they are harassing you, and then I’d give them fair warning.

[~Christina]

Hey ______ Your a nice person but I just do not think things for us will work out.. I wish you good luck in life.

Then block them on your phone and social media .. I think you are using bumble app to meet guys???? Make sure to block them there also

The End its not that difficult.

[Crazy Hitch]

Hi _______

I’ve done some thinking and realised I’m just not ready to date yet. I still have things I’m processing and need to sort out for myself. Good luck moving forward. You deserve it.

[Molk]

Hi,
hurting someone's feelings is just a part of being a human. As they say - in any given long term relationship, conflict is inevitable. It doesn't have to be a serious one, but unless one of you is a complete pushover (his feeling will be hurt but he won't fight back), conflict is coming. But it is not necessarily a bad thing! Remember - polemos pater panton, conflict (war) is the father of everything.