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I met a guy that year and we became friends. He quickly opened up about his past to me; he said he was betrayed a lot and that a lot of online girls from a discord server he used to run, went against him. He also said heÂ’s schizophrenic and that the stress from drama and people betraying him gave him dementia. He is only 22. He said he forgets peopleÂ’s faces and names and he said he has amnesia. Since he opened up to me about so many things, I opened up about my assault to him. When I talked about how people were defending my
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A month later, I was going through a very hard time and
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I wasn’t sure if this was a schizophrenic attack, because he claimed that he was having a schizo attack before this? But I am not sure if this is schizophrenia. I tried to talk to him calmly but I was busy with my classes. When I said I have to go, and I tried to get another friend to help him out, he says “Okay I’ll give him back to you now, it was fun playing.” and he “switches” back to normal and claims to have not remembered what just happened due to his dementia. I was feeling really emotional for the next few days because I was still struggling with my assault and he was just so angry or cold with me all the time... I didn't pester him though, I gave him his space. And then he cut me off on Christmas, just leaving me a message "Bye." and removing me from everything. Then he quickly moved on to a new girl, who has a lot of mutual friends with me, and turned her against me... It hurt but I moved on. I got back together with my boyfriend in time because he was supportive throughout all of this. Then I told my boyfriend what this friend did to me and he got angry and confronted him about it. I wasn't aware my boyfriend confronted him until everyone was suddenly against me, because apparently he said that my boyfriend and I were harassing him... and then he published a song about me, singing about me lying to him about my assault, and using him as a “pawn.” He even wrote on his profile bio "I don't respect people who LIE TO ME." The new girl even made a post about me saying "Imagine harassing someone for something they didn't do... like go outside or something" when I didn't even harass him or contact him since he cut me off. I didn’t lie about my assault... and seeing him say all these things about me, and seeing people buy his song, and coddle him up, hurt so much. In the song he says I was a chore to him, and it kinda mentioned the time where I cried on the phone, and for that I am a "chore". I cried on the phone because he tried to have phone sex with me so it ended up with me crying.. He even made posts in a public thread calling me fake, a psychopath, and a liar... saying that he deeply regrets meeting me, and that he's tired of meeting people like me, and he called me miserable and that i need to learn how to be more positive. Everyone that responded to his thread comforted him... I felt so confused... Eventually the new girl left him, and I saw he made some threads about her, calling her fake. He seems to have a new girl by his side every month and they always end up cutting him off and he lashes out in public posts to get sympathy from random posters. Well, this was all back in Jan-February and I am healing from my assault and him, and I am still with my boyfriend... but sometimes i feel confused, I feel like maybe I really was a chore and I didnt support his schizophrenia enough. but at the same time I feel like he lied about alot of things, like his dementia, and all his stories about how he dealt with
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He was romantically interested in me when we talked and I admit, I was anxious and cautious of getting close to a guy so I was moody and distant at times when he would try to make a move or get sexual. But I have never insulted him or bullied him or anything. I was just dealing with a lot with my attacker at the time, I was going through the process of reporting him and there was just a lot for me... Is it possible he was a liar or a narcissist? Or is this all my fault? Could I have been a better friend? Why did this happen? I am confused... Last edited by bluekoi; Aug 20, 2020 at 08:32 PM.. Reason: Add trigger icon. Apply trigger codes. |
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Hi throwawaypetals. Welcome to psych central.
From what you shared this guy is deeply disturbed and someone that it’s best to distance from and stop all communication with him. It’s not your fault or responsibility to fix his problems. He is clearly a very disordered and disturbed person. I am very sorry you experienced sexual assault and there have been individuals that chose not to believe you. You know the truth and I hope you reported it. You sound too trusting and niave and it’s important to pay attention to red flags that mean another person is not safe and important to distance from. I am sure others will offer you support here at PC. |
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