A new man asked me to be faithful but only met online so far

bpforever1 · Apr 22, 2020, 06:03 AM

I met this man on Bumble and so far it is going
ok. He is divorced and has a great job. He is
living near me. We talk daily so far. He and I
will meet soon when time permits.

My new job is going well but the hours are awful. I will have to squeeze in meeting him on my days off which are none but the company is taking a vacation so am off on those days.

I have no problems with this man so far. But, he asked me to be faithful to him and not meet anybody while with him. As a result, I got off Bumble and another dating app. He seems possessive and am wondering if this is ok since we only met about a week ago.

I like him or like his pictures. He seems ok. I never had anybody tell me to be faithful to them while dating. Is this normal behavior? I am thinking the best I will get out of this relationship is sex and friendship.

I can't really think or expect him to marry me
when I just barely got out of a bad situation
with my family and am doing my best to take care of myself. He is smoking hot though! He is a stud!! So, I like his pictures and also he
said he wants marriage on his profile. I think
he is serious. I just don't know what to make
from my current situation. It is not bad, but a
little strange!

What do you think? Do you think his asking me to be faithful after meeting online is normal? We have not met yet but will soon.

Does anybody think I should see him online
first then meet? Or, just meet and go from
there? He lives right near me though.

Have Hope · Apr 22, 2020, 06:15 AM

I think it's a red flag that he's asking this before meeting and after only one week. That is not normal dating behavior. You don't know each other enough yet, and he's asking for a commitment far too soon. Definitely a red flag. Forget about him being a stud. What matters is would he be a good and healthy partner and you don't know yet, but this is a bad sign. Personally, if it were me I would say no thanks and would move on. Pay attention to red flags.

nicoleflynn · Apr 22, 2020, 06:50 AM

That is inappropriate and strange; you aren't in a relationship with him and don't know him.....sounds insecure and controlling.

MsLady · Apr 22, 2020, 10:50 AM

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As a result, I got off Bumble and another dating app.

I think what's also off is that you took to his request even though you think he may be possessive to the point you've created a post about him.

Yes, it's a red flag. His photos may not be his, either.. or could be outdated.

I wouldn't give him another chance. If he knows you've taken down your profile, he's learned how easily he can work you.

sarahsweets · Apr 22, 2020, 01:53 PM

Do a google reverse image search of his photos.

MsLady · Apr 22, 2020, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets

Do a google reverse image search of his photos.

How do you do that?

bpforever1 · Apr 22, 2020, 05:21 PM

Thank you all for your replies! I did a google reverse image search of his photos. It seems like he is using aliases to scam people and went to African prostitutes on one website. I am not surprised but disgusted. What is too good to be true, is probably not genuine!

I blocked him!!

Thank you again for saving me from misery, well, I'm going to focus on my work.

~Christina · Apr 22, 2020, 08:23 PM

In the future a good way to see if the persons pics are on the up and up ...While talking to them ask them to take a pic holding a water bottle , or shampoo or a left shoe...... any random object YOU choose right NOW

If a person is not willing to take that pic and sent it right to you... well then you can see that they are likely not using real pics.

Anyone wanting you to commit to them so soon and having not met them in real life? They are up to no good and are scammers.

Im not saying you cant find a nice guy on dating apps but I think you need to just chat, You tend to fall for some guy and there is little to no hope of ever meeting them due to geographical issues..

You talked to a french guys for a long time and he expected you to not talk to others, but he still had his profile up if I remember it correctly, I could be mistaken easily.

Anyway enjoy talking to people... but unless its someone that you will be able to start seeing in real life dont jump in with both feet.

unaluna · Apr 22, 2020, 08:47 PM

Some gorgeous guy tried to friend me on facebook this week. I was like, finally! How come everybody gets catfished except me! He had no other facebook presence. Too bad he picked the wrong picture to catfish me with - i dont care for balding gingers - usually their eyebrows are blond and that FREAKS me out

I wouldnt kick Harry out of bed tho...

bpforever1 · Apr 23, 2020, 01:10 AM

Thank you for your support! Yes, I am in contact with a french man now who is married and supportive of me. He is nice but we are just friends. He has been busy lately taking care of his mother, and I wish him and his mother well. He also says he wants to come visit me one day. However, the current situation does not look good for traveling abroad. I like him as a person and would not mind meeting him one day, whenever that is.

I am relieved to have gotten rid of the new man. He may have photoshopped his pictures because they were too good to be real. Anyways, it ended!

Yes, I want to chat to people. I don't really have to meet them in person for chatting. But, men who chat with me have all asked me to meet them.

AzulOscuro · Apr 24, 2020, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets

Do a google reverse image search of his photos.

Please, could you explain how to do this?

rechu · Apr 24, 2020, 09:27 AM

@AzulOscuro - Google Images

AzulOscuro · Apr 24, 2020, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by rechu

@AzulOscuro - Google Images

Thank you. But what is it supposed I have to do with that?
Guess, I received a pic from someone I see as suspicious. What do I do next?

I don’t know girls if you are not being clear with this points because to do a google reverse search is something illegal? Not sure.

rechu · Apr 24, 2020, 02:48 PM

You go to that site, click on the camera icon and it will give you the option to upload a photo from your computer or to copy the web address of the photo, then you choose search. If the photo is somewhere online, it will show up in results.It's not illegal or anything like that.

(Tienes que ir al sitio, luego hay que hacer click en el ícono de la cámara. Allí tendrás la opción de subir una foto o copiar y pegar el sitio web de la foto. Al presionar buscar, te dará resultados si la foto aparece en otro lugar de internet.)