How can I disconnect emotionally from someone you have feelings for?

I may come across as being harsh, but here is what I've gathered up. It will be short and simple. you're friends with a guy that you have a romantic feelings for... he knows it too, but isn't reciprocated.. He continues to allow these sleep over nights in his house where he permits you to sleep in his bed with him... there are no sexual activities going on. I find that very peculiar. What is the reason behind sleeping in the same bed? I think this guy is taking advantage of your emotions to be honest with you. I wouldn't exactly call him a friend when he does stuffs like that. Again... the very concept of these sleepovers, and letting you sleep in his bed with him doesn't bold well for me. I think hes a jerk for not setting up boundaries, and continue to let you suffer with the idea that maybe something can happen. He should've offered to sleep in the living room on the sofa, or something like that.


I do apologize if I sound harsh or cruel.. But I hate it when I see people taking advantage of others peoples emotional feelings. To me that's psychopathic behavior at best. Again that's my perspective on the situation.

No, I think you hit the nail on the head. We will have intimacy at times, but its sporadic. Sometimes we just kiss, hug etc...not good enough for me. He has even said out loud that I love him. He will say he has love for me. But that’s not good enough. He’s being unfair. He knows how I feel. He helps me and does things for me so to keep me around...it’s heartbreaking that he sees nothing wrong.

If you want to save the friendship that you both have... you need to setup some strict boundaries. This idea about sleeping in a single bed together every weekend should stop. It's OK to be friendly with each other, but kissing should be a no no. Hugging is innocently OK, and there's nothing wrong with it.

He needs to understand that if he wants the extra benefits he needs to man up, and show that he's needs to make some commitments in the relationship. If he refuses then so be it. Make sure that he understand the bounties that are being put to place. If he refuses to accept it.. you may need to end this friendship because you deserve better.