[Apple juice]

I doubt anyone will read this and I feel like it's a very stupid situation but I I have no clue what to do anymore.

The most important thing I think is that I never met her, and this is all online, mainly over Snapchat. I'll tell the whole story because I feel like this needs a little backstory. I am 17 and she is almost 16. However she's a lot smarter than me.

We met on a video chatting website and have been speaking for over a year. She sent me nudes and told me that she loved me countless times. Recently I learned that she has a boyfriend for over 2 years . I wasn't aware that she was cheating on him with me. One time she left me on delivered for over a month and finally returned when I confronted her with the cheating. I used to send her a lot of snaps but to get her attention I sent her a message on WhatsApp because we never talk there. I decided that its best if we friendzone each other. I'm still deeply in a crush with her a can't stop talking to her and thinking about her. We're still flirting but making sure not to do anything else. However, this is not the problem. I got over that.

Recently, I did something stupid and put her Snapchat account on a website. She started getting a lot of people adding her. I didn't know that more than 50 people would add her. I thought there would be 2 or 3. I made 2 accounts secretly and added her. She doesn't know about the secret accounts that I made. Also, I told her that I put her account on a website, and we spoke about it.

I apologized many times for it and she said that it doesn't bother her and that she won't speak to anyone that added her.

I log in often to my secret accounts. I noticed that she uploaded something to her story. The first time and second time I didn't mind as they were innocent pictured of her cat.

I went back to my account that I speak to her on and couldn't find what she uploaded. In other words, she blocked me from seeing what she uploaded.

The next day she uploaded a picture of her sticking out her tongue as an invitation for people to talk to her and flirt with her. I know that that's one way that she uses to flirt. Often when she sends me snaps they don't even have her face in them but she put her "flirting face" for strangers, I'm not sure how to refer to this. This made me pretty mad. In fact I don't like anything about this situation. I'm sure that if I'll confront her about it she'll think of a very clever reason which would also win me over, as I said she is a lot smarter than me.

Of course again, I couldn't see her flirting story on the account that I talk to her with, but could find it on the secret ones.

Additionally, there's a feature that lets you see when other people are online and she's online a lot but ignoring me. This isn't something new.

I replied hey to her story on one of my secret accounts and she responded quickly even though she hasn't replied to me in over 2 hours. After that I got a small panic attack and started writing this. I'm aware that there are a lot of grammar mistakes and that I'm stretching this a lot and that its unclear but I want to write this as fast as possible so that I might get a response.

She still tells me that I'm very pretty and that she's still into me, as I said, we still flirt. I'm sure that if I wanted to I could start a relationship with her again (in case it wasn't clear we were kind of in a relationship) or at the very least get her to send me nudes. Of course, I won't attempt to do this as I have morals and it would greatly upset her boyfriend and probably her too, I'm not too sure about if it would upset her. Obviously, she's not very faithful, I'm realizing this as I'm writing all this.

I'm extremely jealous of her boyfriend for having her. I still want her to be with me but at the same time I don't want her to break up with her boyfriend.

I would also like to add that the first time she sent me nudes was a mistake and she didn't mean to send it to me, it was meant for her boyfriend, which I didn't know existed at the time. But our whole "relationship" started after that. She was sending me nudes and telling me that she loves me everyday for a while, until I confronted her.

Also, she's very polite and finds it hard to say no. Im pretty sure that our whole relationship started because of me, because she couldn't say no to certain things that I was saying.

This situation sounds a lot simpler than it is, on text I guess. I wrote a lot of unnecessary things but I was just trying to get you to understand the situation, and her better. I'm writing this in case there's something seriously wrong about this situation and I'm getting the biggest red flags ever. As of right now I'm not sure whether I want to stay her friend or I want to stay her friend so that I could be her boyfriend in the future.

I'll try to flirt with her on my secret accounts just to see how far she'll go and what she'll do. I realize that its not a very nice thing to do but I just have to know.

[Open Eyes]

She sounds like a very unhealthy attention seeking selfish manipulator. You are wasting you r time getting so caught up in her drama.

Find someone that is able to have a healthier relationship with you

[Bill3]

If she isn't faithful to her current boyfriend she wouldn't be faithful to you either if she ever decided to make you her boyfriend.

She isn't even faithful to you now, as a nonboyfriend, as you have discovered with your secret accounts.

I agree with Open Eyes, move on and block her. You are only going to have continuing pain and heartache if you keep her around.

[sarahsweets]

When you say you put her snapchat acc on a website what does that mean? Do you mean conversations between you both?

[Have Hope]

I would end this virtual relationship. Number 1, it's not a real relationship unless you have met in person, know what each other is like in person and spend time with the person for real. People can be anyone they want to be online and often lie. So it's not real until it's actually real. Number 2, she has a boyfriend and has emotionally cheated on that boyfriend. Is that the kind of character in a woman that you truly want? She will likely cheat on you, too. That's how it works. And she has proven that already by flirting on this secret account. In my opinion, she is playing with fire being online as she is and flirting with people on these different accounts. I feel badly for her boyfriend.

So, I would end it and find a real girlfriend that you can get to know for real and in person. This relationship will never lift off the ground.

[sarahsweets]

Hey @Bill3 I want to understand what you posted on a website ? Your chats ?

[Bill3]

@sarahsweets that would be @apple_juice!

[divine1966]

Too much drama. You don’t even know her. I’d end it. ASAP

It’s incredibly dangerous for a girl that young to post and send nudes. It’s not even legal.

She is 15!!!!

Her cheating or not cheating isn’t even a concern. She is a child.

For her to send nudes and for you to receive it falls into “creation and distribution of child pornography” category. It’s a criminal offense and pics could also fall into hands of predators

This needs to stop now. And she needs to be warned that she could be also prosecuted for distributing child porn even though she is a minor and it’s her own picture.

[MsLady]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Too much drama. You don’t even know her. I’d end it. ASAP

It’s incredibly dangerous for a girl that young to post and send nudes. It’s not even legal.

She is 15!!!!

Her cheating or not cheating isn’t even a concern. She is a child.

For her to send nudes and for you to receive it falls into “creation and distribution of child pornography” category. It’s a criminal offense and pics could also fall into hands of predators

This needs to stop now. And she needs to be warned that she could be also prosecuted for distributing child porn even though she is a minor and it’s her own picture.

^^ This. And, unless he's seen her birth certificate, she may even be younger than that. Scary.