Women date up, men sleep down, but when she wants a relationship, it's the friendzone

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How do YOU ladies like it! Huh... tired of rejecting men yet!

Which women are you referring to? Someone you know?

This guy is referring to woman and men as numbers. " If you are a 6 or 7 guy you dont get to sleep with a 6 girl because they are sleeping with the 8's". Ridiculous.

@Ripperjack

Come on man, it sounds like you've been rejected a few times which hurts, yes, but let's face it - women have every right under the sun to pick and choose and so do men. It's just...normal.

Clear the anger from your heart bro, wipe the tears away, and just see women as people. Treat them as...people. They're not a different species.

Speaking of rejection and friendzone, I'm having a situation in which a guy just won't take no for an answer. I have tried everything short of a TRO, but the guy just won't get the hint. Unfortunately with covid and civil unrest my TRO just has to wait. Beyond the enormous disparity in our lives he is violent and destructive. So, there is a reason I'm rejecting this individual.

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Originally Posted by ARaven0137 Speaking of rejection and friendzone, I'm having a situation in which a guy just won't take no for an answer. I have tried everything short of a TRO, but the guy just won't get the hint. Unfortunately with covid and civil unrest my TRO just has to wait. Beyond the enormous disparity in our lives he is violent and destructive. So, there is a reason I'm rejecting this individual.

What is TRO? Just curious.

Temporary restraining order

Ripper if you are struggling finding a date, reading and listening to some bitter angry opinions that are degrading to both men and women isn’t going to get you a date. Most people don’t date or sleep up or down, most people prefer their equals. And I am not talking about looks. Just in general. There is more to life than looks.

I recommend therapy to address variety of negative feelings that overwhelm you and maybe discuss your approach to women and dating.

This response is probably going to sound harsh. I think you need to hear it though. OWN YOUR PROBLEMS. Don't shuffle them off onto a group or other people, that's the easy and WRONG way to address your failings and insufficiency. If everyone (and women in particular in your case) is rejecting you, YOU are the problem, not them. Women as a group are not responsible for you being rejected, just like men as a group are not responsible for the heinous actions of a few. If you plaster women with your failure to find a partner, where's that going to get you? You can't fix a group, and they'll just resent you if you try to blame them for problems by virtue of being born a member, which will leave you even more alone. However, if you take an honest stock of what's wrong in your life, and you decide to own that with an eye to doing what you can to fix it, no matter how small a change that might make your life better... you'll have far greater success than you will by blaming your problems on a group over whom you have no control.

Frankly, my OPINION is that you should take a step back and work on bettering yourself without worrying about finding a romantic relationship. It has been my experience that in doing so, the relationships will find you. Additionally, treat rejections like they're doing you a favor and don't look back. They're not the right ones for you anyway.

@Ripperjack first I want to say I am sorry for your loss. I am sure it was very hard on you to care for your sick wife all those years.

So I watched the video you posted and while some of what this man says may be true for some it’s not really an accurate way to define all dating to go that way. This guy is single and comes across as a bit angry tbh.

I think there is more involved than what he is saying when it comes to finding the right person to commit to when it comes to a long term relationship.

If you don’t mind my asking how Old are you now?

I hope this helps you. Let me preface my remarks by saying I did not watch your video. I prefer videos about cute animals and pretty scenery. I have seen a few of your remarks and noted your screen name, so I think my remarks might be helpful anyway.

Women are not responsible for your feelings or for your orgasm.

If you do not know how to satisfy yourself, by yourself, I suggest you learn. That will go a long way in unclouding your vision. Once you do not feel a helpless victim to the warm feels you get in your groin when you look at women, you might stand a chance of actually building a relationship with one particular women. Not women as a group. Just one individual.

I suggest you drop the angry 'women are horrible' videos from your viewing. I would also suggest you stop viewing pornography. Pornography is no way to find a loving relationship.

To begin, you might also adopt a kinder screen name than one that seems to be referring to a sexually sadistic murderer. And even if you adopted this name because it refers to some video game character you think is cool or whatnot--if your goal is to find a nice woman and to build a loving relationship with her--it is your attitude, your world-view, that is going to make that possible.

Final thought: There is nothing wrong with friends. A few good women friends would help you figure out all that you are doing to keep yourself angry and alone.

I hope this helps.

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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid I hope this helps you. Let me preface my remarks by saying I did not watch your video. I prefer videos about cute animals and pretty scenery. I have seen a few of your remarks and noted your screen name, so I think my remarks might be helpful anyway. Women are not responsible for your feelings or for your orgasm. If you do not know how to satisfy yourself, by yourself, I suggest you learn. That will go a long way in unclouding your vision. Once you do not feel a helpless victim to the warm feels you get in your groin when you look at women, you might stand a chance of actually building a relationship with one particular women. Not women as a group. Just one individual. I suggest you drop the angry 'women are horrible' videos from your viewing. I would also suggest you stop viewing pornography. Pornography is no way to find a loving relationship. To begin, you might also adopt a kinder screen name than one that seems to be referring to a sexually sadistic murderer. And even if you adopted this name because it refers to some video game character you think is cool or whatnot--if your goal is to find a nice woman and to build a loving relationship with her--it is your attitude, your world-view, that is going to make that possible. Final thought: There is nothing wrong with friends. A few good women friends would help you figure out all that you are doing to keep yourself angry and alone. I hope this helps.

This was such a great post.

I think since you were married before and took care of your late wife, you actually are a kind loving person. I think loneliness and bad luck with ladies made you bitter (it’s not uncommon, ton of women who have hard time finding a nice man believe that every man is a jerk). Don’t let this anger ruin your life. There’s help. Bereavement therapy even 5 years later or just therapy could really help. Don’t listen to angry you tube videos