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Jul 16, 2020 at 10:40 PM
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Hello, people,
I have been in a relationship for almost three years and half now, but my problem is that I have been doubting my feelings towards him since day one. I do not know but sometimes I feel like I am deeply in love with him, and out of a sudden I feel like I do not love him and that I am only used to him. We are about to get engaged and I do not know what to do!! |
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Jul 17, 2020 at 12:21 AM
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It wouldn't be fair to you both to get engaged, let alone get married. I'd have a talk with him about it, asap. |
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Jul 17, 2020 at 05:44 AM
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Hello. I would not get engaged to him when you're feeling uncertain of how you feel. I don't think you are in love with him if you're questioning it. When you're truly in love, you know it fully, and you don't question your feelings.
__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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Jul 17, 2020 at 05:51 AM
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If you are in love there are no doubts. When you love someone you want to spend as much time with that person as you as possible. You always think about him/her.
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Jul 17, 2020 at 05:57 AM
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Hello Hannahha, and welcome to PC!
 I agree, if you are doubtful, you should rethink about this relationship. What attracts you to him? What makes you feel doubt about your feelings? Maybe journaling about it and getting out all your feelings will help you get in touch with yourself better and decide what to do, (by yourself, you don’t have to discuss it here) __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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Jul 17, 2020 at 06:07 AM
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Do you think that I might have fear of commitment? I mean do you think that it could be the reason?
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Jul 17, 2020 at 08:52 PM
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Hello, Hannahha, and welcome to Psych Central!
I think the true definition of love in a romantic relationship is if you care about his happiness and are willing to compromise. Good sex is not a true marker, because that tends to fade over time. Being good friends is more important.  (Posted by someone married to the same man for over 30 years.) |
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Jul 17, 2020 at 08:56 PM
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Jul 17, 2020 at 09:01 PM
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Here are some questions: 1) Why did you have doubts from the start? Is this your first and only relationship? 2) Why did you stay if you doubt this relationship? 3) Are you compatible? 4) Do you respect him and like him as a person? |
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Jul 17, 2020 at 11:09 PM
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I just wish to thank everyone of you since you have been really helpful and most importantly you haven't been judgemental ❤️
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