Are there any such men?

I don't think I'm the typical female. I'm a bit uncomfortable with the idea of having a men and women's forum because I hate perpetuating stereotypes.

For example, I don't want a strong, successful man in my life. In fact, I wouldn't mind if the man in my life was transgendered. I just prefer men sexually, but I don't care about acting manly or whatever.

I actually prefer short men and I'm totally not the caretaker. I think I'd want a man to be the caretaker of the family, to make up for my lack of caretaking.

I don't want a man to be the provider or whatever. I don't need him to be confident or strong. In fact, it would really rock if I were stronger.

Are there such men out there? Or am I doomed to be single forever?

I'd like to hear men's take on this especially.

Do you exist? LOL

I've only had one relationship in my life. I saw him for about a year, but it didn't work out.

I felt like he was too affectionate. I needed my space. I also did not want to have to call him everyday. However he was really nice and kind.

I wish I could find the right person. Someone who will give me my space and who doesn't like sex a whole lot.

I'm not sure if I like men better or women, but I think I prefer men because maybe one day I'll like to have children. I would prefer if the man were more the mothering type to the children though, because I'm not very good with children. I'm also not very maternal.

I'd like to pass on my genes.

Anyways, are there men out there like that? I'm seriously thinking maybe I should look for transgendered men. LOL I think my family would object, which is too bad.

Sigh. I just want to find a friend for life.

I find I'm not sexually attracted to either men or women. Is that weird?

I did this online quiz thing that determines whether you prefer masculine or feminine faces and I prefer masculine though.

On second thought, maybe I don't like being in relationships. They're too much work, you have to constantly think about and care about the other person.

I'm so confused.

All my friends are getting married and buying houses and I feel left behind.

Green... Don't worry about it.

I know it seems I've blown off your problem as though it were inferior, but believe me I have not. I think one day you'll find a guy that is great for you and gives you what you want in a relationship. Whether he's short, tall, dominate, not so dominate..whatever you want. People are in to much of a hurry these days because of outside pressures in their social network. Don't let this happen to you because when people rush they make mistakes and when it involves marriage and having children...buying a home...all these grand commitments, well...you don't want to make mistakes. Just take your time and it'll come to you.

(((((((((( Greenleaves )))))))))))

Sounds to me like you are working through a lot of feelings and ideas here. Pros and Cons if you will. I think that's great! It's nice to have some idea of what you are looking for in a relationship.

I think when the time comes and you meet that someone special, you will know it in your gut. They may or may not be exactly what you are looking for, but you will know if the majority of their personality is a good fit for you and what you are willing to compromise on.

youOme is right about not rushing into a relationship just because a lot of your friends are getting married, buying houses and having babies. Like the old saying goes "if your friends were going to jump off a bridge, would you follow them?".

Because you walk to the beat of your own drummer makes you who you are.....and there is nothing wrong with that. I happen to find uniqueness a wonderful quality in people. I look for the uniqueness in folks

One way to find out more of what you might be looking for is to date different folks. I don't mean by getting involved but casually. It's a wonderful way to help you figure out exactly what you are looking for.

I wish you well in your search for a mate. Be patient with yourself and with that of others.....the time will come when you find what is right for you!


sabby

Greenleaves don't jump into a relationship because all your friends are , your still very young, yes there are men out there who would rather have the less dominent (sp) role
Hang in there it takes time