[rdgrad15]

My friend's parents reversed their decision and moved her into a duplex. They kept going back and forth, saying she is going to Atlanta, then saying she will be in the duplex, then Atlanta, and now the duplex. She is officially moved in but they still threatened to move her to Atlanta if they see that she is not living up to their standards and in their minds, being lazy. Basically stating, if she screws up somehow, in their eyes, one more time, they will move her out instantaneously in less than a month without any problems whatsoever.

I am glad she moved into the duplex, but I still think her parents are way too involved and too controlling. I think this has more to do with them than her since they're the one's going back and forth with it. I've even heard them say that it is totally her fault if they decided to move her to Atlanta, not there's, only hers. I think they don't want to admit that they are having mixed feelings by what I am seeing as an outsider looking in.

They seem to think she is incapable of making her own decisions and doesn't know how to be responsible. From what it seems, they seem to see her as she was when she was way younger, not as a 27 year old mature adult. If they have such a problem, they should have let her move into a regular apartment which was originally the plan. I never lived in one yet, but from what I understand, I believe living in an apartment carries a little less responsibilities that living in a duplex.

She can definitely be responsible, but if they are so convinced that she can't be responsible, then I see it as their fault for moving her into a duplex when she easily could have just moved into an apartment which is what she was going to do. They didn't need to get involved and spend all that money. I'm glad she is on her own now. I can also visit without feeling like I am bothering her parents too much. I never do bother her parents, but I do get this feeling that they sometimes get annoyed when me and her hang out. Her finally being on her own brings on more independence and she doesn't have to be yelled at over the smallest insignificant things.

[Yaowen]

Dear rdgrad15,

Her move seems like a good step forward. I hope everything works out for the best!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

[divine1966]

No one can move anyone anywhere unless they deem a person incapacitated and are her legal guardians.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by Yaowen

Dear rdgrad15,

Her move seems like a good step forward. I hope everything works out for the best!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

Yep I agree!

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by divine1966

No one can move anyone anywhere unless they deem a person incapacitated and are her legal guardians.

Yeah I agree. Unfortunately her parents don’t see it that way. I would hope that she moves into an apartment if her parents drag her out of the duplex.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yeah I agree. Unfortunately her parents don’t see it that way. I would hope that she moves into an apartment if her parents drag her out of the duplex.

It’s not about what and how they see things. They cannot physically put anyone on a plane and move her to a different state.

That’s not legally enforceable.

Having said that, they also don’t have to buy her property. It’s likely that she agrees with going where they tell her to go because she is dependent on them. Controlling or not no one can make anyone do anything. She likely agrees to all this as they support her so it’s a mutual agreement

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by divine1966

It’s not about what and how they see things. They cannot physically put anyone on a plane and move her to a different state.

That’s not legally enforceable.

Having said that, they also don’t have to buy her property. It’s likely that she agrees with going where they tell her to go because she is dependent on them. Controlling or not no one can make anyone do anything. She likely agrees to all this as they support her so it’s a mutual agreement

Yeah true.