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Recently on FB and a few other online places, I've messaged two or three different people, who have messaged me back. Then the next message I sent, which was full of info to which I would think one would reply, they didn't reply. I am getting sick of this.
I have found this to be very common. I am not talking about on PC to be clear. I am talking about electronic communications in general between people. In my opinion, it is very rude to not reply or to finish the conversation at least. It leaves the person hanging in mid air and feeling slighted. I have felt slighted more than a dozen times by these types of communications. What happened to respect and consideration? I am not impressed. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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I think some people read the message and get busy doing something else and it falls further and further out of their view. It gets forgotten. Of course, that is not an excuse to not reply.
That reminds me of a message I recently sent to blogger about their website having a link that didn't work. The link was to learn about their services, so it was an important link. I also made some comments about their work and asked a question. After I sent the message, the link was corrected within hours but I never got a thank you or a reply. |
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That webmaster should have thanked you for your note. I just am wondering: have electronic communications reduced the necessity of politeness and common courtesy? __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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Like also, a recruiter recently contacted me about a high level job. We spoke on the phone for 15 mins or so, then he emailed me the job description. I said I would review it and get back to him. When I did get back to him, I politely turned down the opportunity, thanking him and asking him to please keep me in mind for other opportunities. But he never replied to even acknowledge my message.
Once again, RUDE. I just am seriously scratching my head over this issue. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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I don't know why a recruiter wouldn't show more courtesy. They are working for both you and the company. You are a potential candidate for more than one job. I bet they don't treat the company that way.
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But you said you weren't interested, which pretty much gave you the last word. Why would they take more time to correspond with you?
It isn't like a verbal conversation. Honestly, I don't need or even really want a reply email from someone that just says thank you. It's just one more email to open up that really serves no purpose, and in the workday when I am opening, reading, and concretely replying to dozens of emails a day, I honestly don't need thank you's clogging up the works. My email is full enough as it is. Electronic correspondence is about taking care of business and moving on - it isn't like an actual phone call or conversation. I think much electronic communication works that way. It isn't about rudeness - it's about efficiency of time. |
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Also, this recruiter was just an example. In my OP, I talked about people not replying in mid conversation as well. People just don't care to take the time to be polite, respectful and courteous anymore when it comes to electronic communications. So you've missed the point entirely. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Sep 18, 2020 at 04:19 PM.. |
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I agree that in general people don’t communicate as much now because of electronic communication but I also think people are way more busy.
I am probably guilty of not replying to everything too. I receive such enormous amount of emails, phone calls and texts related to work-at work and at all odd hours after work, those I do have to reply to, but I also get enormous amount of personal communication, and I am not even on social media much. I likely miss some personal messages or I read them and don’t have time to reply and I might forget. I always think if people don’t reply to me, I’d contact them if it’s important, otherwise I’d not pay attention. People would contact me again if they need me too. It’s just everything is so fast pace. If I replied to everything to everyone (not meaning close family) I’d have to not ever eat or sleep or do anything I want to do. I’d be glued to the screen responding to people. And if other people don’t reply I know they have kids and elderly parents and might have migraine that day or simply forget. It’s just reality of crazy fast pace of life. The only people I truly worry if they don’t reply are my family or best friend who lives alone. I worry they might be sick or something so I’d contact them again. Other people i can manage if they don’t reply. I likely wouldn’t notice if they reply or not to every message I hear what you are saying but reality dictates how things go Last edited by divine1966; Sep 18, 2020 at 08:40 PM.. |
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Yeah I suppose people do get busy and forget. I'm not really one of those people. I always remember to get back to someone, no matter what.
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I do think often its the case that people do forget, they get busy unexpectedly. It can feel disrespectful especially if, as in your case, you sent them a lot of info, and maybe in response to their question. But as said above, someone could write again if its important. __________________ |
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And I guess I have trouble comprehending forgetting to get back to someone. I am very on top of my communications and never forget, regardless of how busy I am and regardless of my state of mind. But that's just me. And yeah.. thanks.. it hurts when you're expecting a reply and don't get one. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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