[NeedHelp104]

Fell head over heels over someone. We have so much in common. Both of us have same career, we are born a few days apart, and came from same area, among a ton of other things. Clearly she doesn't like me as much as much as I like her. Sure, she will message me back and not blow me off (which says she is a genuine nice person) but I always have to initiate conversation. I try to witty her with humor and she thinks it's funny but it seems like she doesn't want to initiate conversation. I know if I never messaged her for 2 months I would never hear back. I guess I feel down because I have not related so much with someone in my life and I longed for that connection for a while. Any advice? I never asked her out (especially w/COVID, but if she said yes I'd go) but still, I think the message is clear and I don't need to ask at this point.

[hvert]

You might be reading her signals right, but do you have anything to lose by asking her out?

[Rose76]

She might be waiting for you to initiate making some sort of invitation. If you're thinking along the lines of wanting a girl "to meet you half-way," then you're really limiting your chances of getting into a relationship. It's kind of traditional for males to do more of the pursuing in the early stages of two people getting to know each other. Maybe you could suggest meeting her for a bite to eat at a place with outdoor seating.

In my opinion you shall trust the math. If you guys make contact five times and its always you who says first "hi", then she's not interested in you. It takes two to tango! And I'd even say that she doesn't respect your time and you as a man. It'd be nice to partner up with someone who does, no?

[Prycejosh1987]

You have to have the mentality that there are more fish in the sea. There are all kinds of fish, and you can always find a type that you like that is available.