[Rustyfinger]

Hi!

I recently met a girl online. This is new for me and, although I'm glad of meeting her, I feel a little insecure about a couple of things. We were honest with each other, saying that we are not looking for a romantic relationship at the moment. We usually spend a couple of hours, sometimes more, just talking about stuff we like, how our days were, and such. She tells me that she likes talking to me, but she is not starting any conversations with me. And I want to be more close to her.

I'm curious to know what she does like, but I don't want her to think that I'm only interested in her physical appearance, so I'm not prodding too much, nor asking her for photos.

She didn't ask me that either, which makes me think that she is not interested in me at that level.

Maybe just isn't that much of a deal at this stage.

What should I do? Should I just ask her? I don't want to freak her out. How could I keep going from this point onward?

[sarahsweets]

IMO LDR's nearly always fail with some exceptions with committed people who work a long time at it and have known each other a ,long time and well. JMO

[WovenGalaxy]

It sounds like you've thought about a relationship, even tho you both say you don't want one. If you want to know, sure, just ask for a pic and offer your pic in exchange. Why are you afraid if scaring her away? Btw, you never know who you're talking to on the internet. She could be a catfish.

[Bill3]

I think you should not overtly try to get closer to her.

Rather, I think you should just continue to have friendly conversations, and not place any demands on her or ask things of her.

You just met her.

In my view, simply continue to be friendly and see what develops on her end, if anything.

It takes a long time to develop trust online, but only a short time to destroy the possibility of it.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Bill3

I think you should not overtly try to get closer to her.

Rather, I think you should just continue to have friendly conversations, and not place any demands on her or ask things of her.

You just met her.

In my view, simply continue to be friendly and see what develops on her end, if anything.

It takes a long time to develop trust online, but only a short time to destroy the possibility of it.

Good post

[Crazy Hitch]

I agree with the others.

Anyone can put on any persona they like on the internet. She can invent a version of herself that she would like to be.

And I personally wouldn’t trust photos.

As others have said LDR hardly work out. I’m sceptical because I’ve seen them fall apart before.

How long distance are we referring to?

[Prycejosh1987]

To me there isnt much problem to wanting to see what someone online looks like. I did it myself i texted this girl and i wanted to see what she looked like but she wasnt willing, and communications were stopped by me not long after. Its always good to see what someone looks like. We all have our own preferences.

[herbal tea]

I don't think you should make big plans.
I understand that you like her. but often online dating does not bring result. You need to understand this so that you don't get hurt if your relationship doesn't start.
If she likes you, you will understand that from chat.
And I think it's worth asking for her photo, and it's worth sending her your photo. Because if you don't like each other's looks, you won't have a relationship.
How far does she live from you? Relationships at a distance are awful, not for everyone they are suitable.