Not liking the holidays anymore like I used to

hvert · Oct 17, 2020 at 12:25 PM

I find the holidays more stressful than enjoyable at this point. I was never a fan of Thanksgiving but liked Christmas and Halloween as a kid. Now Christmas involves travel to see people I'd rather not see. Thanksgiving has gotten tense over the years with two people having a cold war over who gets to cook. Thanksgiving will be small this year, if we do it at all. I hope Covid cancels our Christmas travel but am getting nervous my husband doesn't feel the same way, lol.

rdgrad15 · Oct 17, 2020 at 02:30 PM

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I find the holidays more stressful than enjoyable at this point. I was never a fan of Thanksgiving but liked Christmas and Halloween as a kid. Now Christmas involves travel to see people I'd rather not see. Thanksgiving has gotten tense over the years with two people having a cold war over who gets to cook. Thanksgiving will be small this year, if we do it at all. I hope Covid cancels our Christmas travel but am getting nervous my husband doesn't feel the same way, lol.

I agree. When I was a kid, my favorite holidays were Halloween and Christmas. Not anymore. I like the food during Thanksgiving but don't like having company during Thanksgiving and Christmas. Partially because they tend to overstay their welcome and also it is just too much. I will say, out of the four holidays, I prefer Halloween the most since there is no get togethers. The passing out candy part is for kids and for adults, it's usually just a night to hang out with others.

New Years is not bad but people go a bit too crazy at times, but I still prefer it over Thanksgiving and Christmas. Basically, like you said, it involves seeing people I'd rather not see. I can understand why you don't like it. And I hope not as many people come over for the holidays too. Not because I'm afraid of the virus, but just don't want many people over.

will19 · Oct 17, 2020 at 04:48 PM

I used to like the holidays a whole lot as a kid. I felt like, in growing up, that my family structure wasn't great. It seemed like the holidays was a period when we could be emotionally together. The rest of the year, not so.

The only thing I like about the holidays now is having time off from work. Christmas is the worst for me because there seems to be some kind of stigma of being alone at that time, in which I always am. And my birthday comes on New Years Day, so I'm a year older and not having some kind of party for me.

Thanksgiving is still kind of nice for me. But now, for some stupid reason, the company I work for does not observe the Friday after Thanksgiving like it used to.

rdgrad15 · Oct 17, 2020 at 05:33 PM

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Originally Posted by will19

I used to like the holidays a whole lot as a kid. I felt like, in growing up, that my family structure wasn't great. It seemed like the holidays was a period when we could be emotionally together. The rest of the year, not so.

The only thing I like about the holidays now is having time off from work. Christmas is the worst for me because there seems to be some kind of stigma of being alone at that time, in which I always am. And my birthday comes on New Years Day, so I'm a year older and not having some kind of party for me.

Thanksgiving is still kind of nice for me. But now, for some stupid reason, the company I work for does not observe the Friday after Thanksgiving like it used to.

Aw I’m sorry you are alone. That sucks that you no longer have off the day after Thanksgiving. And I believe that the older you get, the less you enjoy the holidays. I do enjoy the time off work but when there is company over, I usually can’t wait for them to leave and I’m so happy and relieved when they do leave or cancel their plans on coming over. I know that sounds rude but there are people I’d rather not see no matter if they are family or not.

will19 · Oct 17, 2020 at 07:03 PM

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I know that sounds rude but there are people I’d rather not see no matter if they are family or not.

It doesn't sound rude to me at all. I know what you mean. There's my sister who lives 3000 miles away who is married with two adult children. I haven't spent any holidays with them and I wouldn't be interested to. It would be too much drama for me. They have never come to visit me. If I had the choice between me visiting them or them visiting me, I would choose the latter. It would make me feel more in control. But I think it would be nice to see them go if they did.

rdgrad15 · Oct 18, 2020 at 07:11 AM

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It doesn't sound rude to me at all. I know what you mean. There's my sister who lives 3000 miles away who is married with two adult children. I haven't spent any holidays with them and I wouldn't be interested to. It would be too much drama for me. They have never come to visit me. If I had the choice between me visiting them or them visiting me, I would choose the latter. It would make me feel more in control. But I think it would be nice to see them go if they did.

Yeah I don't blame you for not wanting to go visit her. I'm also like you in the fact that if I do have to see company, I actually prefer for them to make the trip since I hate traveling. But it is nice to see them go too. And yeah, when company is over, there is more drama. More gossiping. If kids or even teenagers around, there is more yelling. And after awhile, especially if some of them overstay their welcome, people naturally start getting sick of each other. I prefer no company at all. And if there is company, I also prefer it to be a visit that lasts no more than a couple hours. Having them spend the night, especially for days to over a week on end is just way too much. I start thinking, please leave.

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