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Ok so I'm a pretty successful guy but I hardly leave my house during lockdown and feel pretty lonely with just the few people I talk to from friends to coworkers. I've tried dating apps but they feel superfical and I'm a pretty short guy so I feel like most women are already disqualifying me. Even beyond dating, I just want more people to talk to even in a non-romantic context. Does anyone have good tips or apps for dating/meeting people during a pandemic?
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Dear crisscross712,
I have often struggled with loneliness throughout my life so I can really identify with what you posted. Wish I had some good advice but sadly I am at a loss. Online dating/meeting is not something I have tried before. Hopefully others here will have better words for you than my poor words. Sincerely yours, Yao Wen |
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As far as I know being successful is very attractive. When it comes to online dating it's you who designs your own profile, so how about highlighting your success rather than height? I've been working in a film industry for a while now and I can assure you that if you don't wanna appear short on a pic it's totally doable and super easy |
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Before I’ve met my husband I did online dating. If a man looked different than a picture or lied about height, he’d not get a second date. I don’t care if the guy is short (I am short too). I care if he is being sneaky |
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I don’t know if you ever use dating sites but yes many people post pictures where they look way better than they actually look in real life. It’s never a good idea. Unless you plan on never actually meeting these people there is no point in being sneaky In addition most dating sites ask your actual height. So if you truthfully state your height, then people know how you look “height wise”. Again if you are being truthful. Many think that 5’3” is the same as 5’7”. Well they don’t get a second date because they are lying |
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Well, I'm the one who looks ten times worse on pictures, because of my heptagon face. I tried dating app once when I was 20 and it went terrible, I barely had any matches at all and no one would even talk to me. It hit me hard back then, because I wasn't an outgoing person. It has changed a little bit later and guess what? I'm doing great in real life. Furthermore, even if something goes south I can tell that I've never ever been rejected without a chance (like I was because of the pics), so... as much as I understand your nobel approach I can't see how does it work in such superficial places like dating apps... |
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I am married so i dont know about many dating apps but I was wondering if you mean meet/socialize in the virtual sense or in person? Because its a pandemic personally I'd advise virtual only. I wonder if you could think of the right search terms you could google online dating forums or something like that?
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I don’t have advice re covid time dating though. It’s a bit scary. |
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I agree with @divine1966. I think another thing to consider is how a woman (or man) who wears makeup looks compared to not wearing makeup. I’m not saying that anyone has to wear makeup or looks bad without it but if you’re one to wear a decent amount of makeup or heavy makeup I think a natural picture is nice.
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If you want a relationship there is no point in mis-representing yourself. It seems you are insecure about your height. Women aren't shallow to only focus on height.
Join social groups online with your particular areas of interests too, any virtual meet-ups etc. |
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Dating apps are superficial. And they are a waste of money. I tried online dating for about 5 years and even though I was honest about my appearance, I still had bad dating experiences overall. I had one significant relationship that resulted but he cheated on me with his coworker the entire time we were together until I found text message exchanges on his phone. Look. It’s not exactly a good time to be dating during the Pandemic anyway. Why is that your priority right now? Right now, your first priority should be staying away from people so you can remain healthy. Vaccines are around the corner. Hopefully that will mean society opens up 100% again. I recommend Meetup as a way to socially meet people especially since you’re single. It’s the most organic environment there is: joining Meetup groups with like minded people. That sets up opportunities for meeting women who can see you face to face, and you don’t have to pay exorbitant monthly fees like you do with online dating apps. |
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There is someone out there for everyone. Keep trying and you will find your princess.
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I felt the same way during the lockdown- lonely and vulnerable, just like after the divorce
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Thanks for your support, we're all vulnerable, however the main thing now is to stay strong and cheer ourselves up as much as we can, life is wonderful anyway
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I've wanted to meet other people. I've tried dating apps too. But I'm scared to meet another because of this pandemic. I hate being this lonely, even if I live with my parents. I totally understand the challenge of meeting even with a mask on. I've felt it best to work on me during this time and to date later. But even waiting hurts.
I've heard of a few people meeting online then meeting in person and a couple getting married. But there fear and stress is worse with the pandemic. |
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Most men I have met on dating apps want sex. So, I have come to the conclusion if I need sex to go to the dating apps and find a hot, younger, man for myself the next time. But, it is true people lie on dating apps all of the time. I am probably the only one who is truthful. They lie about their age, height, salary, etc. They photoshop their pics. So, I would not take anything on online dating apps seriously. The older man whom I ended it with said he was 61 and was 67. He also said he was taller than he is. He is 162 cm. So, I looked past this and tried to get to know him as a person. But, he was not all there in his head unfortunately. He has identity issues and has other flaws which came out as we talked. I think the biggest turn off for me was that he kept wanting sex. I did not give in because I just was not attracted to him. So, sometimes it is not appearance but one's behaviors and character that matter more. I can't say I'm ideal either. I'm not but did not flap my gums like a hee-haw. I was disgusted by his aggressive behavior and now that he is stalking me, I am appalled. So, I would beware and be cautious about online dating apps. The online dating app I used was a partially paid site. So, it is not an issue about being free site or not. I have met married from here and all kinds of men but none of them so far worth pursuing. I think I'm going to join meet-ups and try to meet people with similar interests to meet people next when covid-19 dies down. Honestly, someone told me I'm just wasting my time on online dating apps and it is better to do something on your own. I finally have to agree.
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I was on on-line dating for over 10 years....abysmal. One would think at my age (70), men would have some character, manners,morals, etc....Sadly, not so.
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I believe that men being registered in some online dating apps even if they're older still remain sexually frustrated kids seeing all the women there as sexual victims they definitely need to have sexual relations with...
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