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#541
Oh yeah. I'm definitely moving. The current commute to the office is long - about 50 minutes I think by commuter rail.
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#543
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#544
My husband tried to end his life on NYE I found out today. He OD'd on cocaine and did 4 grams of it in one night. I was told by friends that that's enough to OD and die. His nose bled for four days straight. That's why his blood pressure was high and his blood oxygen level was low! NOT because he could have had COVID.... it's because he OD'd!
And he made me all concerned because he thought he had COVID. Then it turns out he tried to off himself and bled himself. Good Lord. What's next???? __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Jan 22, 2021 at 06:14 PM.. |
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#545
Did he try to end his life or just did too much coke? He lies so much that’s hard to know what’s the truth here
Is he a regular cocaine user? The last thing you need is a cocaine addict. No wonder he never has money. Drugs are expensive. So I was right he used those 900 on drugs for NYE. That’s why he had to ask for more money just few days later. How sad. Regardless what happens no way no how you should ever give drug users money or financially support them in any way. Please don’t give any money. Ok to emotionally support addicts if they are in recovery. He clearly isn’t in recovery. He knew he didn’t have covid. He just knew telling you that would make you feel bad for him. This should be good enough reason to expedite your divorce ASAP and to stop talking to him about anything not pertaining to divorce |
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#547
This relationship needs to be over like yesterday.
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#548
I know, Divine. You're sooo right. He went right to drugs as the answer. And that's exactly why he needed money from me.
He claims that he wanted his heart to stop NYE by doing too much cocaine. Friends of mine tell me 4 grams is enough to OD and kill oneself. I put the trigger icon on. I can't even believe this crap. I really have had it. I am so done with this type of person. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#551
I think he IS a regular cocaine user. Clearly he went right back to it after we broke up.
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#552
Was he not using while living with you? Are you sure? It’s highly addictive.
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#553
He wasn't. I was with him all the time. But when it was around on one occasion at a concert, he was tempted.
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He was probably lying about NYE to me is my guess and just did a whole lot of cocaine to get ridiculously high - he probably is once again trying to play on my sympathies, after seeing how I reacted to my ex fiance's death. He will stop at nothing.
And the fact that he went right back to using cocaine after we've separated? It says it all to me. I knew he had used coke before we got together. I do not know if he had a bad habit of it or not and he always said it was occasional for him, but now I wonder if it was more than that. He's a total druggie is what it comes down to. I hate cocaine and always put my foot down about it. But of course on the day of our wedding, he bought some with MY money and coerced me into doing it with him. I am seriously just disgusted. He's a drug addict, he's a raging abusive narcissist, he's bankrupt, he's totally irresponsible, he's a liar AND a cheater. He needed money from me this month because he had spent all his funds on cocaine. Real nice. Yet another nail in the coffin for me. Man, I really know how to pick quality men! __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Jan 23, 2021 at 09:02 AM.. |
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#555
Someone on one of my abuse groups on Facebook wrote this about her abuser:
I am missing the person I want him to be, verses the person he truly is. This pretty much sums it up for me. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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I’d not trust anything he says. Doesn’t matter why he does drugs or how often. Whatever happened to his cats needing dental treatments?
Yeah I’d stay very far away from romantic partners who use illegal drugs, occasionally or frequently. That’s a dangerous path to take. Plus it’s an expensive habit that he needs women to support him through. When is the divorce going to be filed? Hope soon |
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I wrote my lawyer an email Friday to ask if we're close to finishing the divorce agreement. Yeah, I don't trust my husband as far as I can throw him. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#558
I feel sick. This whole divorce process is making me ill. I cannot take anymore. I want his crap gone. I don't want to have to speak with him. I want greater distance.
At least we finally resolved transferring the cable account to my name. Now that's done. All that's left is him moving the rest of his stuff out. I told him he has two weeks, but I know him - he will extend it beyond that. I really don't want to start work and have this still hanging over me. It's an inconvenience to me to have to leave each time he comes over. I am super annoyed at him right now. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#559
Is there anything you can do legally about it? Like he has been gone long enough. You give him time frame and then his stuff goes outside? I’d ask local police department. He moved out and got deposit back, he cannot store stuff there anymore
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#560
I asked my lawyer if we can include a deadline in the divorce agreement. Yes, there has to be some way to enforce this.
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