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Default Jan 22, 2021 at 01:19 PM
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Yeah I hear you about commutes. I kind of have to. I work in a disadvantaged area by choice but I’d not live there. I live in a nice neighborhood so commuting is part of the deal. You absolutely don’t have to put up with commute if you can avoid it
Oh yeah. I'm definitely moving. The current commute to the office is long - about 50 minutes I think by commuter rail.

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Oh yeah. I'm definitely moving. The current commute to the office is long - about 50 minutes I think by commuter rail.
I hear you. I drive an hour one way. 45 minutes if no traffic. And a very boring road. Hate it
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I hear you. I drive an hour one way. 45 minutes if no traffic. And a very boring road. Hate it
yeah, that's pretty awful. I hate commuting and have not dealt with a long commute in about 20 years. SO.... I will avoid it at all costs!

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My husband tried to end his life on NYE I found out today. He OD'd on cocaine and did 4 grams of it in one night. I was told by friends that that's enough to OD and die. His nose bled for four days straight. That's why his blood pressure was high and his blood oxygen level was low! NOT because he could have had COVID.... it's because he OD'd!

And he made me all concerned because he thought he had COVID. Then it turns out he tried to off himself and bled himself. Good Lord.

What's next????

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Did he try to end his life or just did too much coke? He lies so much that’s hard to know what’s the truth here

Is he a regular cocaine user? The last thing you need is a cocaine addict. No wonder he never has money. Drugs are expensive. So I was right he used those 900 on drugs for NYE. That’s why he had to ask for more money just few days later. How sad.

Regardless what happens no way no how you should ever give drug users money or financially support them in any way. Please don’t give any money. Ok to emotionally support addicts if they are in recovery. He clearly isn’t in recovery. He knew he didn’t have covid. He just knew telling you that would make you feel bad for him.

This should be good enough reason to expedite your divorce ASAP and to stop talking to him about anything not pertaining to divorce
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My husband tried to end his life on NYE I found out today. He OD'd on cocaine and did 4 grams of it in one night. I was told by friends that that's enough to OD and die. His nose bled for four days straight. That's why his blood pressure was high and his blood oxygen level was low! NOT because he could have had COVID.... it's because he OD'd!

And he made me all concerned because he thought he had COVID. Then it turns out he tried to off himself and bled himself. Good Lord.

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You need trigger icon on this post or something, I think
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This relationship needs to be over like yesterday.
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I know, Divine. You're sooo right. He went right to drugs as the answer. And that's exactly why he needed money from me.

He claims that he wanted his heart to stop NYE by doing too much cocaine. Friends of mine tell me 4 grams is enough to OD and kill oneself.

I put the trigger icon on.

I can't even believe this crap. I really have had it. I am so done with this type of person.

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He bought my engagement ring with money he received from his first marriage. Go figure.
Dang. I missed this post. It’s a new low.
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Dang. I missed this post. It’s a new low.
Yep - at the time, I didn't think of it. Now I think it's pretty crappy.

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I think he IS a regular cocaine user. Clearly he went right back to it after we broke up.

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Default Jan 22, 2021 at 07:14 PM
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Was he not using while living with you? Are you sure? It’s highly addictive.
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He wasn't. I was with him all the time. But when it was around on one occasion at a concert, he was tempted.

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He was probably lying about NYE to me is my guess and just did a whole lot of cocaine to get ridiculously high - he probably is once again trying to play on my sympathies, after seeing how I reacted to my ex fiance's death. He will stop at nothing.

And the fact that he went right back to using cocaine after we've separated? It says it all to me. I knew he had used coke before we got together. I do not know if he had a bad habit of it or not and he always said it was occasional for him, but now I wonder if it was more than that.

He's a total druggie is what it comes down to. I hate cocaine and always put my foot down about it. But of course on the day of our wedding, he bought some with MY money and coerced me into doing it with him.

I am seriously just disgusted.

He's a drug addict, he's a raging abusive narcissist, he's bankrupt, he's totally irresponsible, he's a liar AND a cheater.

He needed money from me this month because he had spent all his funds on cocaine. Real nice.

Yet another nail in the coffin for me.

Man, I really know how to pick quality men!

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Someone on one of my abuse groups on Facebook wrote this about her abuser:

I am missing the person I want him to be, verses the person he truly is.

This pretty much sums it up for me.

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I’d not trust anything he says. Doesn’t matter why he does drugs or how often. Whatever happened to his cats needing dental treatments?

Yeah I’d stay very far away from romantic partners who use illegal drugs, occasionally or frequently. That’s a dangerous path to take. Plus it’s an expensive habit that he needs women to support him through.

When is the divorce going to be filed? Hope soon
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I’d not trust anything he says. Doesn’t matter why he does drugs or how often. Whatever happened to his cats needing dental treatments?

Yeah I’d stay very far away from romantic partners who use illegal drugs, occasionally or frequently. That’s a dangerous path to take. Plus it’s an expensive habit that he needs women to support him through.

When is the divorce going to be filed? Hope soon
I'm pissed. He needs to get the rest of his crap out of the apartment before I start work. That's in two weeks - I just told him he needs to figure it out.

I wrote my lawyer an email Friday to ask if we're close to finishing the divorce agreement.

Yeah, I don't trust my husband as far as I can throw him.

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I feel sick. This whole divorce process is making me ill. I cannot take anymore. I want his crap gone. I don't want to have to speak with him. I want greater distance.

At least we finally resolved transferring the cable account to my name. Now that's done. All that's left is him moving the rest of his stuff out. I told him he has two weeks, but I know him - he will extend it beyond that. I really don't want to start work and have this still hanging over me. It's an inconvenience to me to have to leave each time he comes over.

I am super annoyed at him right now.

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Is there anything you can do legally about it? Like he has been gone long enough. You give him time frame and then his stuff goes outside? I’d ask local police department. He moved out and got deposit back, he cannot store stuff there anymore
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Is there anything you can do legally about it? Like he has been gone long enough. You give him time frame and then his stuff goes outside? I’d ask local police department. He moved out and got deposit back, he cannot store stuff there anymore
I asked my lawyer if we can include a deadline in the divorce agreement. Yes, there has to be some way to enforce this.

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