mY boyfriend feels like a just a friend?

princesscookie19 · Dec 20, 2020 at 10:45 AM

Okay so Im going out with this guy for the past 2years and I seen him and all he does is play video games and Im no longer attracted to him,hes more of a friend than any real boyfriend. We talk nearly every day and meet up for lunch every week but since the codi-19 I cant go see him.He says he wants to loose weight but how do I say it to him that I no longer want him liking me that way?

Dec 20, 2020 at 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by princesscookie19

Okay so Im going out with this guy for the past 2years and I seen him and all he does is play video games and Im no longer attracted to him,hes more of a friend than any real boyfriend. We talk nearly every day and meet up for lunch every week but since the codi-19 I cant go see him.He says he wants to loose weight but how do I say it to him that I no longer want him liking me that way?

Why did you lose attraction to him?

MickeyCheeky · Dec 20, 2020 at 11:26 AM

i'd suggest to simply be Honest and tell him what you wrote here. There's nothing to be ahsamed of, and though he may nto take it too well, it would be much worse if you continued to go out with him out of some sense of obligation. You have to feel free to date whoever you want as long as you're faithful and Honest with the people you're going out with. SEnding many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @princesscookie19, your Family, your FriEnds, your boyFriEnd/FriEnd and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

Rive. · Dec 21, 2020 at 05:40 PM

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how do I say it to him that I no longer want him liking me that way

Just like you did in your post i.e. by being honest about how you feel.

AzulOscuro · Dec 22, 2020 at 01:24 PM

I know you don’t want to hurt his feelings. It’s very sad when both parties end up not feeling the same but it often happens.
Think for a moment what would you like if you were in his shoes? Would you like to know the truth, the honesty of the other person, so you could make your own decisions for the future?

princesscookie19 · Dec 23, 2020 at 05:10 AM

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Originally Posted by MisterPaul

Why did you lose attraction to him?

he plays with his games waaay too much and only talks about trading in games.He also has a kid and I asked him what happened to his old gf and he says he lost touch with her and "grew apart" as he says. Once when we were out he said he wanted sex in the middle of the street and his zipper was down.Hes a nice guy but seriously !!

RoxanneToto · Dec 23, 2020 at 05:56 AM

I’d just be honest and say you see him as a friend now - I don’t have anything against people playing games, but it seems like he prefers investing his time in those and not in you. That’s not a reflection of your personal worth, either.
And “we grew apart” is often a cover for poor behaviour on the part of the person who uses that excuse, sorry to say. At the very best, it’s an indication that they didn’t want to put the effort in to try and fix their relationship with that person before calling it a day.
Good luck with whatever choice you make, here. I know it’s usually tough breaking up with partners, but it is better in the long run!

WishIgotHelp · Mar 02, 2021 at 05:02 PM

my girlfriend once me that we are acting more like "best friends" rather than lovers, i remember myself getting very upset and hitting the chair with my fists.

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