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No, feelings are not facts MisterPaul, I am not saying you are stupid at all. I understand what you are saying and the core is targeting a certain type of individual that acts like the individuals who hurt you so you can teach them how it feels. Unfortunately, often that only makes the person even worse. Often it results in a "see I knew that person was bad and that I needed to keep them down and controlled".
Most bullies are hiding some kind of deep inadequacy. Often it's something they learned at home. Often it is created from lack of attention or even being bullied by a parent or even copying a parent that is a bully. Last edited by Open Eyes; Jan 28, 2021 at 09:13 AM.. |
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I say that without any pleasure at all. Remember, a disorder is called a disorder because it is dysfunctional / unhealthy / has a morbid effect on the psyche. Crucially, it can't be sustained long-term. I'm saying this because you seem to believe you can choose to be furious forever, and nothing bad will happen; that it's a reasonable life choice. Addicts are asked: Does this (my behaviour / way of thinking) have a negative impact on my life? It's extremely difficult to admit that it does! I was anorexic for years, and in denial, so I speak from experience. To us older hands, your posturing looks like denial, if you see what I mean. Why would you want to spend your whole life - at best - angry and numb, or - at worst - crashing and burning? |
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Yes, it's true it's much harder alone. When I fell, there is nobody to pick me up - sure. Is it bad though? You know, they say the navy seals training is a living hell, but then these people end up being the toughest fighters in the world, right? Many people say that the main goal in life is to become the best version of oneself. |
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It's good that you are working on your self improvement and developing skills in whatever you do that is proving to be profitable (as long as it's legal).
The thing about these bully type individuals that you will learn is they are not as powerful as you might believe them to be. When we are young we don't see that because they tend to create fear in others who seem to want to be accepted. Eventually, you will see them in a different light and get bored with them. |
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What is interesting in what you and this other individual shared with me is that neither of you cared to target someone you knew would be easy to hurt. It had to be a certain type of individual. That took precedent over love too.
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Yeah, we are narcissists, not psychopaths. We have values for God's sake
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Nice to see you have a sense of humor MisterPaul.
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