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Jan 28, 2021 at 03:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Open Eyes

Idk MisterPaul, I fear that when you get older you will look at things differently than you do now. You are still so fresh from the hurts caused by your piers that did not have the ability to understand a lot of things and that age group tends to be on the insecure narcissistic side.

Can you tell me what is it I don't understand?

Jan 28, 2021 at 04:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Open Eyes

Idk MisterPaul, I fear that when you get older you will look at things differently than you do now. You are still so fresh from the hurts caused by your piers that did not have the ability to understand a lot of things and that age group tends to be on the insecure narcissistic side.

I have this strange feeling that you’re trying to make your point by saying „you’re young and you’re stupid”. If that’s the case then you have to know that I thought about it many times and I actually tried to open up to people (many of my threads prove it). And, as of now, I am 100% sure it doesn’t work for me at all, so… I just do what works for me and act accordingly.

Open Eyes · 09:13 AM

No, feelings are not facts MisterPaul, I am not saying you are stupid at all. I understand what you are saying and the core is targeting a certain type of individual that acts like the individuals who hurt you so you can teach them how it feels. Unfortunately, often that only makes the person even worse. Often it results in a "see I knew that person was bad and that I needed to keep them down and controlled".

Most bullies are hiding some kind of deep inadequacy. Often it's something they learned at home. Often it is created from lack of attention or even being bullied by a parent or even copying a parent that is a bully.

Purple,Violet,Blue · Jan 28, 2021 at 11:26 AM

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Originally Posted by MisterPaul

I have this strange feeling that you’re trying to make your point by saying „you’re young and you’re stupid”. If that’s the case then you have to know that I thought about it many times and I actually tried to open up to people (many of my threads prove it). And, as of now, I am 100% sure it doesn’t work for me at all, so… I just do what works for me and act accordingly.

If you're 100% sure that opening up to other human beings doesn't work for you, then you will with 100% certainty have a difficult and lonely life.

I say that without any pleasure at all.

Remember, a disorder is called a disorder because it is dysfunctional / unhealthy / has a morbid effect on the psyche.

Crucially, it can't be sustained long-term.

I'm saying this because you seem to believe you can choose to be furious forever, and nothing bad will happen; that it's a reasonable life choice.

Addicts are asked: Does this (my behaviour / way of thinking) have a negative impact on my life? It's extremely difficult to admit that it does! I was anorexic for years, and in denial, so I speak from experience. To us older hands, your posturing looks like denial, if you see what I mean.

Why would you want to spend your whole life - at best - angry and numb, or - at worst - crashing and burning?

Jan 28, 2021 at 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

If you're 100% sure that opening up to other human beings doesn't work for you, then you will with 100% certainty have a difficult and lonely life.

Here's the plot twist: currently I'm doing better than a majority of my friends who actually do have people around them. Shaping up, taking care of my health, chasing career and being highly-skilled in what I do, making good money, dealing with hard times like a champ etc.

Yes, it's true it's much harder alone. When I fell, there is nobody to pick me up - sure. Is it bad though?

You know, they say the navy seals training is a living hell, but then these people end up being the toughest fighters in the world, right? Many people say that the main goal in life is to become the best version of oneself.

Open Eyes · Jan 28, 2021 at 01:53 PM

It's good that you are working on your self improvement and developing skills in whatever you do that is proving to be profitable (as long as it's legal).

The thing about these bully type individuals that you will learn is they are not as powerful as you might believe them to be. When we are young we don't see that because they tend to create fear in others who seem to want to be accepted. Eventually, you will see them in a different light and get bored with them.

Open Eyes · 05:26 PM

What is interesting in what you and this other individual shared with me is that neither of you cared to target someone you knew would be easy to hurt. It had to be a certain type of individual. That took precedent over love too.

Jan 29, 2021 at 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Open Eyes

What is interesting in what you and this other individual shared with me is that neither of you cared to target someone you knew would be easy to hurt. It had to be a certain type of individual. That took precedent over love too.

Yeah, we are narcissists, not psychopaths. We have values for God's sake

Open Eyes · Jan 29, 2021 at 06:03 PM

Nice to see you have a sense of humor MisterPaul.

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Open Eyes Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Mar 2011 Location: Northeast USA Posts: 23,106 (SuperPoster!) 13 21.3k hugs given	Jan 29, 2021 at 04:39 PM #67 What is interesting in what you and this other individual shared with me is that neither of you cared to target someone you knew would be easy to hurt. It had to be a certain type of individual. That took precedent over love too. Last edited by Open Eyes; Jan 29, 2021 at 05:26 PM..

Open Eyes Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Mar 2011 Location: Northeast USA Posts: 23,106 (SuperPoster!) 13 21.3k hugs given	Jan 29, 2021 at 06:03 PM #69 Nice to see you have a sense of humor MisterPaul.