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I'm wondering if it is worth it or not. I did not think it through when I signed up about 2 months ago. I was originally comfortable, but things got worse in my state, and now I am only comfortable with meeting up every couple of weeks or so. One guy that I was dating completely cut off contact out of nowhere. Odd, but maybe he got bored.
The current guy I have been chatting with over the past month would message me every day up until recently. He would text very frequently, but I tried to slow down the pace, because I am the kind of person where I believe it kind of kills the chemistry to talk too much before meeting. Plus, we don't have that foundation yet. He recently backed off a little bit though, and I wonder if it is because he senses I don't like to talk all the time. We agreed to finally meet next week in a public place, but I don't think I want to keep up with this weekly due to covid. Does it sound like it's even worth it to try to date during the pandemic? I sense that these guys get bored, and I do as well. I am not into video chatting, and I'm not much of a phone person. I'm not sure if I should just de-activate my profile. __________________ Bipolar 1 Disorder, Unspecified Anxiety Disorder |
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Pick a public place and give it a shot! Why not? Have no expectations. I honestly despise this whole "texting before meeting" thing. It's usually so pointless and it's a waste of time IMO. Meet up. That's the real game. I don't text at all. Meetin' or nothin'
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The final decision is ultimately up to you. If you REALLY don't feel like doing it then i think it is best to be Honest from the start and tell him that you're not in the mood right now at least. However, if you feel like you've got nothing to lose by trying then i agree with MisterPaul about giving it a shot. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @xRavenx, your Family, your Friends, these guys you're meeting and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Thanks! I feel the same way about texting before meeting. He seems to be into it, but maybe I should just be honest with him that I am not a great phone person, although I'd like to check in here and there. I am going to follow through with making plans with him next week and will see how it goes. Sometimes I find online dating awkward, so hopefully things will flow naturally.
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I’d text in order to confirm meeting place or something. Not long conversations. Plan to meet and go from there.
I’ve met my husband on a dating site. It was funny we both signed up for 6 months on the dating site and met each other right away. We cancelled our subscriptions but they still charged us for 6 months haha I said “we both wasted ton of money” but my husband said “best money ever wasted” they wanted us to be one of their success stories on the site but we didn’t want to bother. I know ton of happy couples met online. It’s no different than meeting anywhere else. It just allows you more options It’s different during covid but neutral place wuth distance and mask is doable |
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When we’ve met we lived about 2 hours drive from each other. He worked nights. I work days. And I had a second job on the weekend and some week nights. And my work is an hour away opposite direction. First time we met was lunch half way. He asked for a second date and I could only figure out dinner two weeks from then again half way, he was willing to wait. So for awhile that’s how it went. Every other week and not going to each other houses etc |
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Considering its a pandemic and we have the highest daily death counts every other day I do not think in person dating is safe.
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What if you want to kiss the person, then what? I don't know, call me overly cautious and maybe even pessimistic right now, but I wouldn't want to even try to date during a pandemic. Too much risk, and so many necessary regulations to follow. One certainly cannot follow and pursue normal dating protocols right now.
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I wouldn't date during the pandemic. I don't think it is safe to meet a bunch of strangers and potentially risk exposing myself and/or potentially spreading it.
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What about face time dating, maybe that could work. Recently I have considered asking friends to set me up with a nice guy since there’s a pandemic and dislike dating sites.
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