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Default Jan 10, 2021 at 06:23 PM
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What is up with some guys who always try to brag about their "achievements" in bed to me?

I told a guy where I live - "Yeah, I used to f**k girl from that neighborhood.
I told a guy that I needed a break from work – “When I took a break I had new girl for f… every Saturday!”.

I wouldn’t even answer a direct question of whom I’m sleeping with, not to mention bragging about my sex life. Who is wrong here? Is it me or him?
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Default Jan 10, 2021 at 06:43 PM
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It’s not you at all. It’s him.

How annoying. Low class. Rude.

Also people who brag about being good in bed, typically are very bad hahah plus he likely doesn’t have all these experiences he is bragging about. People who brag how wonderful they are, never are that wonderful at all or they wouldn’t have to advertise. Ignore him or if you feel like embarrassing him, ask what’s the reason for this oversharing

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Some guys are just douchebags. It is what it is.
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What is up with some guys who always try to brag about their "achievements" in bed to me?

I told a guy where I live - "Yeah, I used to f**k girl from that neighborhood.
I told a guy that I needed a break from work – “When I took a break I had new girl for f… every Saturday!”.

I wouldn’t even answer a direct question of whom I’m sleeping with, not to mention bragging about my sex life. Who is wrong here? Is it me or him?

It makes them feel macho... superior and and feel like an alpha.. I do question if most of it is even true or not... or maybe they're struggling with their sexual desires, and so they just want to make it all up just so that they can feel better about themselves... no it's not you at all but the guys who are bragging.
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Default Jan 11, 2021 at 05:00 AM
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I agree with you @MisterPaul it does seem that there is a subset of men that like to brag to other men about their sexual exploits. I look at it like penis envy or d**l sizing. The ones who talk the most about it probably aren't actually doing it that much. Or maybe they are and are full of hubris. I did know some women in the past(in college myself included) who would talk about how good in bed they are but for me it was a way to make myself seem "desirable" because I thought being wild in bed was what men wanted. Back in the day it bordered/was sexual harassment. Now, I would think it is an offense you would get in trouble for in the workplace.

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Default Jan 11, 2021 at 06:20 AM
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It's seriously immature behavior. That's like high school level immaturity.

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Thank you for your answers. I thought as much, but I wasn't sure. I'm allergic to people who try to act superior in any way, especially in such pathetic one
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Just because someone acts superior doesn’t mean they are.
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Thank you for your answers. I thought as much, but I wasn't sure. I'm allergic to people who try to act superior in any way, especially in such pathetic one
I like that you’re allergic to them. . I’ll try to use that to help myself. I’ve said I’m A hole intolerant.

I’m not sure about why some guys have over shared like that with you. Maybe it’s like dogs feeling like they marked their territory after they’ve peed on a fire hydrant.

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I’m not sure about why some guys have over shared like that with you. Maybe it’s like dogs feeling like they marked their territory after they’ve peed on a fire hydrant.
I think they want to prove themselves as men. I'm surprised they don't see that the only thing such bragging proves is that they are I-N-S-E-C-U-R-E. Well, I'm glad they let me know - I'll use it against them if they piss me off again

I hate it so much because they share and then expect me to react with approval or to share “my achievements”. And I’m not a f…..g boy anymore, so I can't even play up to this childish pissing match. In result the whole thing makes me so uncomfortable...
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I think they want to prove themselves as men. I'm surprised they don't see that the only thing such bragging proves is that they are I-N-S-E-C-U-R-E. Well, I'm glad they let me know - I'll use it against them if they piss me off again

I hate it so much because they share and then expect me to react with approval or to share “my achievements”. And I’m not a f…..g boy anymore, so I can't even play up to this childish pissing match. In result the whole thing makes me so uncomfortable...
I can’t imagine what they want you to say or think in response to their info. If you act with approval, it would sound something like ‘good for you!’. If you shared your achievements, it would sound something like ‘yeah, I used to F her too!’

They might think of it as a way of bonding with you. My closest gf’s and I used to share info like that. We WERE teenagers, so we were immature and learning. We were seeking support from each other. We were not as crass as to say ‘F’, but said ‘dated’, but I think it was along the same idea and I assume men may use ‘F’ because that is more the way men relate to one another (yes, a macho thing).

I’m sorry it irritates you. How might you use it against them?

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Default Jan 13, 2021 at 06:16 AM
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Insecure and childish. Quite often when someone brags, it isn't even true. Our society has become so rude and crass; I grew up in the 60's and never heard about any guys behaving like that.....guys didn't even swear around girls, and now the girls swear just like the guys. It seems that manners and respect have disappeared.
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I’m sorry it irritates you. How might you use it against them?
I don’t know yet. I’ll probably try to hit their ego in some way unless they ***** up. It shouldn’t be too difficult since guys who actually get girls easily don’t have to brag about it all the time, so there is definitely a hair in the soup when it comes to my guys.
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I don’t know yet. I’ll probably try to hit their ego in some way unless they ***** up. It shouldn’t be too difficult since guys who actually get girls easily don’t have to brag about it all the time, so there is definitely a hair in the soup when it comes to my guys.
Bragging does make other people want to take them down a peg.

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Default Jan 14, 2021 at 04:50 PM
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I feel you, my two best friends are like that. Both are married/have kids but when we gather together for a glass of beer, they often start talking about girls that are all devouring them with their eyes and how they'd like to **** them. If only they weren't married! It's not exactly bragging, more like wishful thinking as they both love their spouses. But it still pisses me off because the only time a girl looked lovingly at me was when her boyfriend was standing directly behind me (but hey, at least I'm at least somewhat competent at picking social cues from random people). And also because I hate any kind of macho posturing.
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I feel you, my two best friends are like that. Both are married/have kids but when we gather together for a glass of beer, they often start talking about girls that are all devouring them with their eyes and how they'd like to **** them. If only they weren't married! It's not exactly bragging, more like wishful thinking as they both love their spouses. But it still pisses me off because the only time a girl looked lovingly at me was when her boyfriend was standing directly behind me (but hey, at least I'm at least somewhat competent at picking social cues from random people). And also because I hate any kind of macho posturing.
I've been on both side of the aisle and I can assure you that I've been excited with women's attention only when I barely had any. Things have evolved. I shaped up and I pay a great deal of attention to my appearance and so they notice now, so to speak. Though I would never ever brag about it like a f... teenager.
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Our society has become so rude and crass; I grew up in the 60's and never heard about any guys behaving like that.....guys didn't even swear around girls, and now the girls swear just like the guys. It seems that manners and respect have disappeared.
I recently found an article that talked about how young adults nowadays consider slurs to be far more offensive than traditional swear words, so the pendulum has swung from how things used to be in, say, the 1930's where an actor could risk their entire career crashing down by saying the word "bloody" but people would commonly use racial slurs and the like, and they were considered completely okay. I didn't grow up in the 1960's, however, so I wouldn't know much about what was considered taboo and what wasn't at that time.

Here is a link to the article, in case you're curious.

I do know there was no Internet in the 1960's, and since this image sums up Internet commenters in a nutshell, people didn't have to suffer from being bombarded by anonymous entities spouting hateful rubbish in those days. Most people I meet in real life outside of teenagers still show respect and manners, unlike a lot of people online. Not that I'm a saint or anything; I cringe when I remember many things I said and did when I was younger.

OP didn't mention the age of the bragging guys in question. A part of me hopes they were in their late teens. It would be pretty awful if they were fully-grown men.
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OP didn't mention the age of the bragging guys in question. A part of me hopes they were in their late teens. It would be pretty awful if they were fully-grown men.
30 and 33 years old. The world should burn
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30 and 33 years old.
Ouch! I can imagine I would feel pretty disturbed if the first response I got from talking about the area I live in was, "Yeah, I used to f**k a girl from that neighbourhood".

I'm a man in my early 20's so my mind wanders over to sex much more than I care to admit, but I highly doubt anybody trying to enter a casual conversation with me would want to hear me say things like that out loud.

That goes double for the second man. A professional work environment, and he thought it would be a good idea to respond to you wanting a break from work with that?

I'm repeating other posters here, but people like this are clearly out for attention and validation for their supposed "superiority". I admit, it feels cathartic to type this so I must have an ego myself, but at the end of the day posts on the Internet generally don't have nearly as much of an impact as some people think they do.
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@MisterPaul, while this isn't so much about men bragging (which actually I have read that bragging is something that gives people a high and self gratification), THIS article provides interesting facts about men and sex. You may find this interesting and enlightening, I did.

8 Things You Never Knew About Men and Sex
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