When you feel guilty or regret it after venting or opening up to someone

AzulOscuro · Feb 13, 2021 at 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yep I agree, I have a harder time trusting people too. I learned the hard way more than once. Keeping to yourself is usually the best strategy and it takes time before opening up. I have natural instincts about who I can trust too, much better at listening to them than I was over ten years ago.

I haven’t mentioned a situation that could take place. Let’s see that you trust a person your psychological issues, I’m referring to people who struggle with PTSD, bi-polarity, anxiety, personality disorders...Sometimes, if the person we trust these issues may have bad intentions and use your psychological issues against you. It may be a 22-catch situation.
You are never right or are allowed to stand up for yourself because in the end, you are the one who have psychological problems “you are nutz”. It’s something similar yo be gas-lifted.

will19 · Feb 13, 2021 at 12:56 PM

I've notice for myself that there are certain subjects I would talk about; and then I can sense that the other person doesn't feel comfortable with what I'm saying. For an example: yesterday I got talking to this guy at work and I mentioned my family dysfunction. He reacted by saying "yeah" and then changed the subject quickly and completely. For some reason, I think that other people don't feel comfortable hearing complaints about family members. That seems to be the subject (or topic) that makes people the most uncomfortable.

With me, I don't feel comfortable hearing about some family dysfunction. Some I welcome and relate to and others I can't. For me, the most uncomfortable I hear from others is gossiping at the office and health issues along, with end-of-life stories.

Yes I feel guilty at times venting; and especially when others react negatively.

rdgrad15 · Feb 13, 2021 at 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by will19

I've notice for myself that there are certain subjects I would talk about; and then I can sense that the other person doesn't feel comfortable with what I'm saying. For an example: yesterday I got talking to this guy at work and I mentioned my family dysfunction. He reacted by saying "yeah" and then changed the subject quickly and completely. For some reason, I think that other people don't feel comfortable hearing complaints about family members. That seems to be the subject (or topic) that makes people the most uncomfortable.

With me, I don't feel comfortable hearing about some family dysfunction. Some I welcome and relate to and others I can't. For me, the most uncomfortable I hear from others is gossiping at the office and health issues along, with end-of-life stories.

Yes I feel guilty at times venting; and especially when others react negatively.

Yep I agree. And I’ve had the same experience where I tell someone something and they clearly don’t like it so I regret it. In some cases in the past it was so obvious that they were so uncomfortable that I’ve stop mid sentence, apologized, and change the subject quickly. I agree that topics of family dysfunctions, relationship issues, gossip, and death are what make people the most uncomfortable.

rdgrad15 · Feb 13, 2021 at 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

I haven’t mentioned a situation that could take place. Let’s see that you trust a person your psychological issues, I’m referring to people who struggle with PTSD, bi-polarity, anxiety, personality disorders...Sometimes, if the person we trust these issues may have bad intentions and use your psychological issues against you. It may be a 22-catch situation.
You are never right or are allowed to stand up for yourself because in the end, you are the one who have psychological problems “you are nutz”. It’s something similar yo be gas-lifted.

Yeah that makes sense, that can happen unfortunately.

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