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Default May 06, 2021 at 11:33 AM
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When I first skimmed your post, I thought you had known him a couple months, but it's only a couple weeks! SLOW DOWN!!! You've met four times and you're in love? You're rushing things again. This man had NO photo on his profile. He still could be married, OR abusive... or an a-hole. I'm glad you're happy so far, but all along this last year, you've rushed to conclusions about every man based on a few communications and 1 meeting - now it's 4 meetings and you're in love. Please be careful and slow down. You don't know much about this man. It takes far more than 4 meetings to get to know someone and come to any real conclusions - that takes months.

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When I first skimmed your post, I thought you had known him a couple months, but it's only a couple weeks! SLOW DOWN!!! You've met four times and you're in love? You're rushing things again. This man had NO photo on his profile. He still could be married, OR abusive... or an a-hole. I'm glad you're happy so far, but all along this last year, you've rushed to conclusions about every man based on a few communications and 1 meeting - now it's 4 meetings and you're in love. Please be careful and slow down. You don't know much about this man. It takes far more than 4 meetings to get to know someone and come to any real conclusions - that takes months.
Thank you for replying!! Yes, I understand. He did not have a pic because he had his identity stolen before. I do know it will take months before we are solidified as a couple. He is the first man who has been decent to me. I am hoping for the best!!! So far he has been a gem. He is really sweet. I will take my time with him. SO, thank you for your advice.
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Default May 06, 2021 at 07:29 PM
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I’m happy for you.
From what I understood, You already met him for four times, face to face. Am I right?
If so, this can give you a clue of where’s coming from.
It’s not a big deal that his profile has no pic, if you already saw him. Maybe he’s an insecure person or has some kind of complex. As long as you saw him. I don’t see any problem.

Only a thing, I know it’s futile to say a thing as I’m gonna tell you, because I know you are all excited but I have to tell you. Take it little by little. Time will tell you. Try to not being very intense. So he won’t feel uncomfortable.
Consider always that you are very worthy and he has to be up to you. Let’s see what happen. I’m sure there are marvellous guys out there and he can be one of these.

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I’m happy for you.
From what I understood, You already met him for four times, face to face. Am I right?
If so, this can give you a clue of where’s coming from.
It’s not a big deal that his profile has no pic, if you already saw him. Maybe he’s an insecure person or has some kind of complex. As long as you saw him. I don’t see any problem.

Only a thing, I know it’s futile to say a thing as I’m gonna tell you, because I know you are all excited but I have to tell you. Take it little by little. Time will tell you. Try to not being very intense. So he won’t feel uncomfortable.
Consider always that you are very worthy and he has to be up to you. Let’s see what happen. I’m sure there are marvellous guys out there and he can be one of these.
Thank you for your reply! Yes, I will take my time. He is the one who keeps wanting to see me. So, I obliged. He is very nice to me. We text twice a day. He is going away this weekend for a business trip so I will have a break. He is very sweet and never says anything negative. I really like him so far. I think he is the one for me but we shall see. I feel blessed anyways for a good man coming into my life.
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Thank you for replying!! Yes, I understand. He did not have a pic because he had his identity stolen before. I do know it will take months before we are solidified as a couple. He is the first man who has been decent to me. I am hoping for the best!!! So far he has been a gem. He is really sweet. I will take my time with him. SO, thank you for your advice.
Him saying he had his identity stolen before seems very far fetched, unlikely and incredibly suspicious,. You are making some pretty grand sweeping statements about this man without hardly knowing him - you adore him and are already in love after only 4 dates and two weeks of knowing him. I am guessing he is married and that is why he had no photo. Please be very careful. You've been burned far too many times from these dating sites you're on, which have been full of scammy men. I would back up and re-evaluate your dating approach with this man. Be objective and more cautious. You sound like you're once again in diving in feet first without giving it more time to know this man's character.

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Him saying he had his identity stolen before seems very far fetched, unlikely and incredibly suspicious,. You are making some pretty grand sweeping statements about this man without hardly knowing him - you adore him and are already in love after only 4 dates and two weeks of knowing him. I am guessing he is married and that is why he had no photo. Please be very careful. You've been burned far too many times from these dating sites you're on, which have been full of scammy men. I would back up and re-evaluate your dating approach with this man. Be objective and more cautious. You sound like you're once again in diving in feet first without giving it more time to know this man's character.
He is not married. He is here on assignment for a foreign company. He divorced about 6 years ago. Why would he lie? He can get any woman he wants. I understand how you feel though. But, he is not lying. I checked his background. He is a decent person. He has no children and married once and that is it. He has never used a dating app before he says. He does not need to do so. He is from a tight knit family and has many friends. He is also from Europe. He is a good man and honest to me.
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He can get any woman he wants.
No, he can't.

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He is not married. He is here on assignment for a foreign company. He divorced about 6 years ago. Why would he lie? I understand how you feel though. But, he is not lying. I checked his background. He is a decent person. He has no children and married once and that is it. He has never used a dating app before he says. He does not need to do so. He is from a tight knit family and has many friends. He is also from Europe. He is a good man and honest to me.
You can't know for sure any of this. You barely know him. He may be a freaking serial killer and you won't be able to tell after four freaking weeks. My advice is to relax and drop the "prince" thing because it foreshadows huge dissapointment
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No, he can't.


You can't know for sure any of this. You barely know him. He may be a freaking serial killer and you won't be able to tell after four freaking weeks. My advice is to relax and drop the "prince" thing because it foreshadows huge dissapointment
He is no serial killer!! lol, he would not be working for a company here and be able to get a visa here with a criminal record. He is decent. I understand how people feel about dating apps because I've met some worms myself. However, I know he is genuine. He is not lying to me. He is good and honest. He is working for a reputable company and is not just a regular worker, but a senior manager of his section in Asia. I do understand how you guys feel though. But, he is the real deal. I will defend him until he proves me wrong. He does not lie and is not a bad apple or worm. He is my prince. Lol, I'm meeting him again next week and making dinner for him. I know him pretty well already since we spend hours with each other at a time. But, I will be cautious. If he turns out to be a serial killer well damn I will take my chances until he is proven to be such a criminal.
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He is no serial killer!! lol, he would not be working for a company here and be able to get a visa here with a criminal record. He is decent. I understand how people feel about dating apps because I've met some worms myself. However, I know he is genuine. He is not lying to me. He is good and honest. He is working for a reputable company and is not just a regular worker, but a senior manager of his section in Asia. I do understand how you guys feel though. But, he is the real deal. I will defend him until he proves me wrong. He does not lie and is not a bad apple or worm. He is my prince. Lol, I'm meeting him again next week and making dinner for him. I know him pretty well already since we spend hours with each other at a time. But, I will be cautious. If he turns out to be a serial killer well damn I will take my chances until he is proven to be such a criminal.

THE BEST SERIAL KILLERS DO NOT HAVE CRIMINAL RECORDS - thats what keeps them from handcuffs hahaha
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He is really decent. He texts me twice a day and never says anything negative. He spends his down time with me. If he were married, I think his spending so much time with me would give off warning bells to his colleagues and workers. His co-workers know about me because I gave him food which he gave to his co-workers. I do understand everyone's concern though. Believe me, I've met a few jerks and snakes. And, because of my past experiences, I know a snake now from the initial meeting. He is no snake. And, he is the real deal. I am really happy!!
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THE BEST SERIAL KILLERS DO NOT HAVE CRIMINAL RECORDS - thats what keeps them from handcuffs hahaha
I guess it takes one to know one!
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and never says anything negative.
Just do not refuse to see the red flags ^ You'll be fine.
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No, he can't.


You can't know for sure any of this. You barely know him. He may be a freaking serial killer and you won't be able to tell after four freaking weeks. My advice is to relax and drop the "prince" thing because it foreshadows huge dissapointment
He can get any woman he wants. Believe me!! He is a catch!! He is classy and a gentleman. He is also well-educated and has a good job. He is my prince. I see that people on here have been burned by dating apps too. I have and know how you feel. Yes, I was skeptical too. I thought he could not be the real deal. But, the longer I spend time with him, the more I like him. I had the opposite feelings for other men I met on the dating apps. Also, I met him on a totally different dating app than I usually use. I got off the other dating app because it gave me nothing but snakes. So, I have been blessed this time and may be the only time. He is a sweetie. I am truly happy. I never have gone out with a man more than twice and we are going on our fifth date. Yes, I don't know everything about him yet. But so far, he has been a gem. I am really happy about him. I am crossing my fingers we will stay together. I am really hoping for the best. And, I wish all those who use dating apps the best too. Sometimes, one gets lucky!!! I have never been happier in my life. I met many frogs but this time my prince arrived. And, yes, I think if he is not perfect it is still ok by me. But, he is single, available, and my man!!
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Just do not refuse to see the red flags ^ You'll be fine.
Yes, I gush about him. But, he is my man now. I am not totally blinded. I know if he has some health problems or something he can't help, I will accept him. For me, his character is important more than appearance. So far so good. He is ideal for me, He is really kind to me. He is always supportive. I really like him a lot!! Yes, I may be infatuated with him but at least this is better than being appalled by him.
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I am honest to a fault. If I find any red flags which are glaring, I will be honest about them and let him go. But, so far, he is a gem!!
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I am well-mannered guy and they say I'm attractive. I can befriend anybody within few minutes. I've got a sense of humour and I can talk pretty much about anything.

Yet I have few weak spots that trigger my anger problem. And when that anger strikes, I can even choke someone to death because I can't control that madness.

Point being, tread lightly and lower you expectations. I'm happy for you, but if you think he's your "prince" then you will be disappointed. Nobody's perfect and you only know his first surface. There is more than one when it comes to a human being and every human carries a shadow behind him when the sun goes down.
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He can get any woman he wants. Believe me!! He is a catch!! He is classy and a gentleman
So he can't get women who are into aggresive street guys. No guy in the world can get any woman one wants.
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I am well-mannered guy and they say I'm attractive. I can befriend anybody within few minutes. I've got a sense of humour and I can talk pretty much about anything.

Yet I have few weak spots that trigger my anger problem. And when that anger strikes, I can even choke someone to death because I can't control that madness.

Point being, tread lightly and lower you expectations. I'm happy for you, but if you think he's your "prince" then you will be disappointed. Nobody's perfect and you only know his first surface. There is more than one when it comes to a human being and every human carries a shadow behind him when the sun goes down.
I could care less if you are attractive or whatever. I am not dating you!! I said he is not perfect but yes I'm infatuated with him right now. Yes, he has some f physical flaws but so do I. His character speaks for itself and his actions speak ever louder. He spends time with me whenever he can . This means a lot to me!!
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So he can't get women who are into aggresive street guys. No guy in the world can get any woman one wants.
There are a lot of women here who like foreign men. The world here is his oyster. I was not born yesterday. Yes, may be, he can't get every woman he wants but he has a lot of women who would love to be with him besides me.
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I could care less if you are attractive or whatever. I am not dating you!! !
I was just giving you an example of a situation when what's on the outside is not a full picture of a true person. Do not be rude to me. It's against the community rules. I came here to help you.
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