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Default Feb 18, 2021 at 11:44 PM
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So my ex fiancé called me a couple of times on thanksgiving and I didn’t find the messages until the next month. We exchanged a few texts but he has ignored all my calls since.
I tried once before to make it work with him a second time and that didn’t work out.
Someone had mentioned that he was being a tease by calling me and asking me how I was doing but not answering his phone when I called.
There’s a reason I ended it the first time and why it didn’t work out when I tried to rekindle it. I keep reminding myself of that. A friend of mine was surprised that I even called him at all.
We had a very special relationship, he knew me at a time in my life when I was the most vulnerable . Our relationship didn’t survive my return to work . His ex wife was a professional woman and he didn’t like any reminder of that, I guess.
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I am sorry @leomama, yet often what is hard to let go of is what we were hoping for instead of what reality is there that isn't going to allow that "dream of" to come true. You certainly can't have someone who gets upset that you can be self sufficient.
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The best is to pass page. The fact that he ignores your calls could be a sign of trying to manipulate you and being over you. This isn’t worthy.
I tell you from my few experience, ok. I don’t have many experiences and I’m not smart at relationships.

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I am sorry @leomama, yet often what is hard to let go of is what we were hoping for instead of what reality is there that isn't going to allow that "dream of" to come true. You certainly can't have someone who gets upset that you can be self sufficient.

I’ve always been self sufficient but he was able to enrich my life in ways I couldn’t at the time. Now I don’t need him for that.
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The best is to pass page. The fact that he ignores your calls could be a sign of trying to manipulate you and being over you. This isn’t worthy.
I tell you from my few experience, ok. I don’t have many experiences and I’m not smart at relationships.

I agree but why call me and ask me how I’m doing? Manipulate me to what end? I have a lot of experience but I wouldn’t say I’m smart at relationships, I mean I did end it twice, doesn’t mean he still can’t get to me.
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I agree but why call me and ask me how I’m doing? Manipulate me to what end? I have a lot of experience but I wouldn’t say I’m smart at relationships, I mean I did end it twice, doesn’t mean he still can’t get to me.
I don’t have experience in relationships, all what I know it’s because I’m an observer, but it doesn’t mean a lot.
All I know is that some people find validation with having other people on his/her feet. Power is very attractive.
If he is so interested why in the earth he doesn’t answer the phone to begin with? When I mention interest I mean pure interest without second or hidden intentions.

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I don’t have experience in relationships, all what I know it’s because I’m an observer, but it doesn’t mean a lot.
All I know is that some people find validation with having other people on his/her feet. Power is very attractive.
If he is so interested why in the earth he doesn’t answer the phone to begin with? When I mention interest I mean pure interest without second or hidden intentions.

I agree, and that’s why I ended it in the first place. It’s good I got out of it and there’s nothing there for me.
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I know it’s very hard but you seem very smart.

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I know it’s very hard but you seem very smart.

I feel like an idiot
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There’s nothing harder that letting go. I’m with you.

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So Sorry that you're dealing with this. i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters about trying to move on if possible. It seems like you've both made your choice so unless you have decide to stay friends with him or come back together perhaps i don't think contacting him is such a good idea but do decide by yourself. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @leomama, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Ok, now we are two idiots. But, we are aware so it makes us stronger and wiser. Sometimes, the reward takes a time.

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If at all possible, I'd say going no contact sounds like the best option. Block his number, e-mail or any other way of communicating. It's easier said than done, I know, but it will help you get past this. My ex and I kept in touch for a while after we broke up, before I finally cut off the contact. It was tough at first, but I realized it was only dragging things out and causing me more pain in the end. Good luck!
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So Sorry that you're dealing with this. i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters about trying to move on if possible. It seems like you've both made your choice so unless you have decide to stay friends with him or come back together perhaps i don't think contacting him is such a good idea but do decide by yourself. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @leomama, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

He was the one who contacted me on thanksgiving . That’s what I brought up. This is exactly why it didn’t work out. I’d get blamed for the results of his choices .
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If at all possible, I'd say going no contact sounds like the best option. Block his number, e-mail or any other way of communicating. It's easier said than done, I know, but it will help you get past this. My ex and I kept in touch for a while after we broke up, before I finally cut off the contact. It was tough at first, but I realized it was only dragging things out and causing me more pain in the end. Good luck!

He was blocked when I found the voice mail . I wasn’t expecting it .
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