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#42
Well, let’s hope he’s being genuine about wanting to change and put the necessary work in
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#43
Sorry for the off-topic question, but could you say a little bit more about reasons standing behind your opinions of the dating scene? Why is it so bad?
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#44
Nothing wrong with the dating scene when you're younger. But at my age? Forget it. Men my age typically want younger women in their thirties. Then younger men want children and only seek a thrill with an older woman. Then on the flip side, most men are married or divorced with kids. I don't want to deal with kids. Slim pickings!!!!!
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#45
Nothing wrong with giving it a chance. Good idea with couples therapy. Then you can always feel you tried it all.,
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#51
That's my worry and concern.. that he won't want to do the actual work. Moving back in with him is not something I am even willing to consider.... and not for a very long time. He needs therapy and long-term before I would ever consider it. Maybe 5-6 months from now. Perhaps.
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#52
To be honest, I would file for divorce and then, see what happens.
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#53
Um... no. Why on earth would I do that when we’re already together and we’re going into counseling? That kind of advice does not apply here.
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#54
I tell you my opinion. What I would do? My opinion is so valid as anybody else’s. It’s up to you to take it or not.
I mean, you are not gonna tell me what to reply to a thread in a public board. You exposed a problem and I feel free to give my insight. Anyway, I already took that you don’t want to hear my insight. It’s fine. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
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#55
This is my thread and I have every right to shoot down your opinion and advice when it’s not even remotely applicable or helpful to me.
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#56
Guess I was in a mood yesterday.
I had a very candid conversation with him last night. I told him I don't know if I can ever trust him again. A very real reality. I am curious to see how therapy goes. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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How do you think therapy might change your trust issue? Trust & change takes time to prove.
When I left my now EX 14 years ago, I told him even from 2100 miles away I would KNOW if he changed. He never did & now I finally have a good lawyer to wrap up the mess he made in my life over those 14 years before I could get my divorce. Pathetic people never change any more than leapords change their spots. Giving them time only gives them more time to mess up your life & keep the drama going. Yes we all make our own decisions for our life & then we deal with the consequences of OUR choices. __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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#60
Agreed. The last thing I need right now is more stress or trauma. That's what landed me in the hospital recently. I am very much all about taking care of myself right now, and about taking care of my needs first. I cannot go back to the hospital and never want to experience that ever again.
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