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So Sorry you had to deal with this! That was definitely inappropriate! i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters about being Hopefully possible to meet new friends even at your age. i think it is possible to find new friends that don't engage in bad behavior. i realize that it can seem hard though. i'd suggest to not give up. Just take things one step at the time. Sorry if my post wasn't really Helpful but i do Hope things will improve for you as well as your Marriage. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Have Hope, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Sounds like a deal breaker to me .

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It definitely is. And the unwanted groping is entirely unacceptable.

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So Sorry you had to deal with this! That was definitely inappropriate! i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters about being Hopefully possible to meet new friends even at your age. i think it is possible to find new friends that don't engage in bad behavior. i realize that it can seem hard though. i'd suggest to not give up. Just take things one step at the time. Sorry if my post wasn't really Helpful but i do Hope things will improve for you as well as your Marriage. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Have Hope, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
Thanks, Mickey.

I know there are decent people out there... I just need to find them somehow.

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A toxic friend story - this is just one of many stories I have. My question is at the bottom of the post.

This so-called friend and I have known each other for nearly 30 years. We mainly drank together at the bars whenever we saw each other, or sometimes he helped me with home projects I needed help with. He's always lent an ear whenever I've had a bad breakup - we would go enjoy a few drinks on the beach and I would cry about my broken relationships to him. This went on for years. We always enjoyed each other's company and had a lot of good laughs together. At one point in time, he would introduce me to people as his "wife".

Fast forward to today. I haven't seen very much of him since I married two years ago. He pretty much disappeared from my life, though I texted him from time to time. I knew he had a crush on me all those years, but he never made a move.

I invited him over the other night - needing comfort during my pending divorce. He's been more in touch since the separation five months ago.

He began rubbing my feet, which turned into a leg rub. I didn't mind because my legs were sore. He's given me leg rubs in the past - strictly platonically.

Well, this time, his hands ventured to my private parts near my thigh. I squirmed and pushed his hand away, saying "no, don't go there!". A few minutes later and before I knew it, he was trying to unzip my pants. I jumped away from him and froze. I didn't know how to confront him, so I excused myself to use the bathroom, then told him I needed to go to bed so he needed to go home.

I am appalled and am freaked out. In the past, there were a few times that we had become physical. There were times when we drank together and I would pass out, with him sleeping over my apartment, but in a separate bed.

I am aware of what this means - I need to cut off the friendship entirely. He is no friend of mine.

But I am disgusted and sickened by his behavior and treatment of me. Thirty years of what I considered to be a friendship of sorts, and he just wants in my pants as soon as I am getting a divorce. I knew he had feelings for me, but the total disregard for me and the disrespect is what takes me by surprise.

I will cut ties with this person. He is an alcoholic to boot and I don't need this in my life at this juncture.

I am seeing that I need far healthier people around me, and the ones who are not healthy, I must cut loose.

But it makes me feel very alone. I need new friends, it's covid, and I am 50 years old - soon to be a divorcee. UGH. I am just sick of attracting toxic people into my life. My soon to be ex husband was/is abusive and extremely toxic for me, and this man is clearly toxic. I've had many unhealthy relationships and seem to pick up all the broken strays. I know I need higher standards, but it makes me feel very alone.

I need to find healthier people, but I don't know where to start or look - everywhere I go in life, I pick up toxic types of people.

Anyone else feel that they mainly attract toxic people?
Have you sought out therapy to help you deal with the divorce and figure out what you do want in life?
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Have you sought out therapy to help you deal with the divorce and figure out what you do want in life?
Actually, my husband and I are patching things up and are trying again. So far so good!

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