[Peterpeterson]

Blunt post alert. But I need opinions here.

Found out my wife cheated on me a month ago but she’s lying and telling me she didn’t. I don’t believe her. So I’ve blocked her. I’ve been hooking up with random chicks but I think I finally found the woman of my dreams. She’s got a boyfriend but she says she will break up with him but hasn’t yet. I have her working with my company taking on the manager role. She doesn’t claim me on her social media accounts.

Does anyone think she’ll leave this guy for me?

And no she doesn’t know I’m separated from my wife. Wife plans on filing for divorce anyway so what’s the point in me telling her? I consider my wife my ex wife anyway. Done with her.

[Alive99]

Originally Posted by Peterpeterson

Blunt post alert. But I need opinions here.

Found out my wife cheated on me a month ago but she’s lying and telling me she didn’t. I don’t believe her. So I’ve blocked her. I’ve been hooking up with random chicks but I think I finally found the woman of my dreams. She’s got a boyfriend but she says she will break up with him but hasn’t yet. I have her working with my company taking on the manager role. She doesn’t claim me on her social media accounts.

Does anyone think she’ll leave this guy for me?

And no she doesn’t know I’m separated from my wife. Wife plans on filing for divorce anyway so what’s the point in me telling her? I consider my wife my ex wife anyway. Done with her.

Blunt response alert.


1. This is a rebound relationship with a 99% chance. Not rational whatsoever.

2. Forget about getting together with women who are still in a relationship. That's too messy, too.

3. It sounds even more messy with her working with your company.

I suggest you stop and think all this mess through, because that's what it looks like from the outsider pov anyway.

I hope this helped some. Good luck with dealing with all of it!

[divine1966]

Your girlfriend needs to know you are married.

You are both attached. She has a boyfriend and you are married. Not a good idea

You separated a month ago and already found woman of your dreams. Not realistic

She doesn’t claim you on social media because it’s an affair. People won’t claim those anywhere

Even if she leaves this boyfriend for you, she’ll leave you for a new man just the same.

Your wife is cheated but now you are with another cheater. Look into it. Why are you attracted to dishonest cheating women

[Molinit]

This is a cheating extravaganza.

You are married. Your wife cheated on you. You aren't divorced but are "hooking up" with people and now are seeing someone who is married. You are cheating, she is cheating = 2 cheaters.

She won't leave and now if she chooses to, she can claim sexual harassment because you are her superior so if you try to fire hire be prepared to settle a lawsuit out of court.

What a mess.

[MickeyCheeky]

i think i agree with all the other wise and wonderful posters about this seeming like a messy situation. i'd suggest to take some Time aside before taking decisions like this and hooking up with other people. Focus on yourself for a bit perhaps. i Hope things will improve soon for everyone. Please do not give up. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Peterpeterson, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

[Rive.]

It's not okay for your wife to have cheated on you yet, what, it would be okay for this other woman to cheat on her partner with you? And seemingly you are still married and cheating on your wife. This is messed up.

Jumping straight into another relationship with the 'woman of your dreams'(?!) spells disaster every which way I look at it.

[eskielover]

When your divorce is finalized ONLY THEN is it time to "move on" if your wife isn't filing for a divorce quick enough to suit you, do it yourself. Or guessing you don't want to be bothered doing the paperwork or paying for the filing out of your own pocket.

[Have Hope]

Finding the woman of your dreams within one month is not realistic unless you've been building a relationship with this woman from work for a long time. I agree with the other posters. It seems you are seriously on the rebound, and are hurt by your wife's cheating, naturally. Heal your wounds before you go jumping in feet first into another relationship, is my advice. It will only hurt you in the end to dive in. Plus she's attached.