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Default Jun 11, 2021 at 10:35 AM
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Well my friend just blew it. She refused to stop sending money to a scammer who she truly believed was a member of BTS despite overwhelming powerful evidence to the contrary. She went as far as to get mad at anyone, including me, who tried to stop her. Everyone she mentioned this too, even her coworkers, tried to stop her but she would get so mad and saying that she has the right to screw up her own life if she feels like it. Which, technically, yes she does. And that's what she did.

She sent over 6,000 dollars to this scammer and she truly believes this scammer has her best interest at heart. At first it was 1,500 but then they raised it to 5,000 after she met that goal of 1,500 which was to be expected. Either she really did have a separation with reality, or another possibility is that she was depressed and did not like living in her duplex and actually secretly wanted to do something that would cause her parents to move her to Atlanta. I told her that if they ever found out, she is done. I told her that many times and so has other people and that she will be in Atlanta regretting her decision.

Her response was always, "Oh well, I'm doing this anyway." Makes me wonder exactly what her true motives were. She admitted the whole time that she knows it sounds crazy but she needed to find out for herself if it was really a scammer or not. After multiple attempts at showing her, and we even found evidence that I didn't even know existed, that it was a scammer, she still wouldn't drop it. In fact, there is strong evidence that this scammer was an obsessed teenage girl. Not positive since that could have been made up as well, but that is possible. At the same time, apparently this scammer would claim to be her future husband and once they met, he or she would never let her go. Which, to me, is alarming coming from someone who is a total stranger.

When she told me that she will most likely moving to Atlanta, she admits it was stupid but she didn't really seem to care by the way her message was written out. I actually sort of wonder if she actually wanted to move and decided to do something to make that happen rather than just simply tell her parents that she wasn't happy. Any time she got really sad, she would scrap her arm with the prongs from an adapter that go into the electrical sockets.

Sorry, I don't care how much she may deny it, she most likely has depression. You have to be very depressed and angry if you go to the extent where you use something that is supposed to go in an electrical outlet as a means of self harm. And as much as I don't want to be alone, I think her moving to Atlanta is the best decision. In fact, since she technically showed the scammer her license which had her address, there's always that possibility that she could have been robbed or even attacked by some creep. Also other than work, she spends all day laying down in bed. She claims she is just lazy, but I think it has to do with depression as well, and the fact that she has ADHD makes it more likely that she had depression too.

It has gotten to the point where I actually started to want her to move to Atlanta and even had plans of possibly telling her parents anyway. I didn't tell them, they somehow found out on their own, but I was going to due to safety concerns. Her behavior showed that she may not be capable for staying alone in a duplex. She blew all that money that could have been used for other things. She was so careless that at times she barely had enough to pay for her bills and the various car problems she was having.

Basically, paying money for this person to come visit her was, in her mind, way more important than anything else. Very careless and irresponsible. In fact, she was more than willing to take off 10 days of work to be with this person, yet she got mad that she had to take 4 days off to go to her brother's wedding. Something about that mindset seems really screwed up. I'm glad I didn't move in next door since that's what I was planning on doing. I waited just in case something came up and she would be moved out so I am glad I did not move in. I had a feeling she would do something to get herself moved and as much as she may have broke from reality, I get this feeling it may have been deliberate as well.

I've seen people do stuff like that. It is not very mature, but if someone doesn't like the situation they're in, whether it is living in a certain place or anything else, they may do something drastic just to have themselves removed from whatever it is that is making them unhappy. Also I once asked her if her parents ever returned to Pittsburgh and moved back into the house she lived in before for 16 years, would she do it. Her response was that she would move back in a heartbeat, no questions asked. That's another reason I believe she may have secretly not been happy at that duplex. The fact that me and other people kept telling her she will be forced to move to Atlanta, only for her to shrug it off and basically say oh well tells me she may have secretly wanted to move. Clearly she has issues and despite the fact that I'll have no one to be around, I'm actually glad she is moving. I can always go visit, plane trips there are not far and are actually quite cheap in the grand scheme of things.

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Default Jun 11, 2021 at 12:56 PM
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It seems like you did what you could! i am not sure what her motives may be but Hopefully things will improve soon for everyone! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @rdgrad15, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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It seems like you did what you could! i am not sure what her motives may be but Hopefully things will improve soon for everyone! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @rdgrad15, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
Thank you and yeah me and other people could only do so much. Regardless of her motives, she clearly isn't fit to be alone.
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