How to let a good one go?

The title of this thread should have been "how can I learn to be ok with myself when I'm lonely and all my friends are far away,. How do I stop using the excuse in my mind that because someone seems to enjoy my company it makes sense to get in my car and drive to see someone"..

So I said I won't respond anymore to my thread. I do want to say, I've learned something from all of this. I've learned I do know the intent of this man, even earlier on,
and I ignore what I want. I'm not doing that anymore. It does feel so good to feel in control of my own life. He asked me to help him with moving, I wanted to get out of here and drive. I listened all day into the night with him talking to me. I've been either blessed or cursed with a good memory. His story changed. I won't go out with a liar. I won't ever chase a man again. I've done that before. He said "i don't see what's wrong with that" I gave him a blank stare, but it's so obvious that it's wrong, it's unfair. He showed little interest in my own life, but he used to.. . I asked him more questions about his faith. His answer doesn't work, I don't believe in God the way he does. I called him out on some other bs that he's said. Then he changed. I'll still appreciate the whole experience because that's how we grow and learn. I didn't want to talk when I left. I don't think it's right to just not say good bye. So I texted (he won't phone, I know the reason} , but I said what I needed to. It doesn't work for me. I won't be what he wants me to be. It's not that this was any intense romantic desire from either of us I think we truly enjoyed each other's company. But when I wanted to agree to have sex, I went against my own morals. It was tempting, I was attracted, lonely..... I have to be ok with myself alone and I am, but affection is so good to have. I realized how all of this was so centered around what he wants that I truly am done. It feels good, I got the "closure" I needed for myself.

I do so appreciate the caring people on this forum and being supportive.

Yep, we have to get to the point you just got to to be able to totally walk away & yes, we have to hold strong to our own morals be cause those wanting us to change will be gone tomorrow & we will be left asking ourselves...."why did I do that?" I learned to live within my own morals because I am the one I have to live with & my relationship to God.

I left my husband 14 years ago & divorced 3 years now. I love my single life & my critters give me great heart connections better than I ever had with my EX. My farm 2100 miles away from him keeps me so busy I never have spare time to even think about having anyone else in my life & I truly finally love the life I am living. Glad you have been finally able to get to a good balanced place in your life

Oh I have a long way before I feel I have a balanced life I think. ,Yes, very true, I have to live with myself, and be accountable to what I do..I do want to do what I know is right or I feel horrible for sinning. I often ask myself why did I do that. I think it's very hard to resist a hug, to just have someone touch you. Yes pets are good, I have a cat. I've always loved dogs too. I miss the horses. But it wouldn't be the same as having another human soul that loves you. But yes, we never know when someone is going to leave, or die, anything can happen. I can't torment myself over a man.

If there isn't one coming to me in the future, I will at least be able to live with myself knowing I don't have to feel like I need forgiveness, because it is a sin when not married. I wish that my marriage had worked, but it didn't. I was young, and people do still change for the worse sometimes. I'm not referring to this guy now, he won't change. I felt relief when I let him go.

I'm glad you're happy with your life and thanks for the support @eskielover