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Yes I’ve been out there lol I got married at 50 second time so I did my share of dating. My daughter is in early 30s and is getting married, she did her share of dating of course. My future son in law is awesome with great personality and is very successful yet he is very short (shorter than her) and bold (prematurely). So what? I know many young people of all kind of looks are dating and enjoying their life. I’ve met men who were convinced women don’t like them because they are short or fat or bold. Please. By this logic only models can find a date. There are usually other reasons why. Not the looks. |
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Attraction is important in romantic relationship but attraction has nothing to do with looks. It comes from within. If it was only looks, only good looking people would be happy. But that’s simply not the case. All kind of people find love and romance and experience attraction and enjoy happiness
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#23
Lol....Personally I want it all... good looks, personality, common sense & intelligence & someone who isn't a financial looser.
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It really depends on people. For me, personality is definitely more important. I've been at one singles' party before. I've instantly noticed the good-looking guys, but the moment they talked, I started losing interest. The ones whom I actually had conversations with were not the most handsome, but they were the ones who have depth in their character. Of course, there were guys who have both. Unfortunately, those kinds of guys were not interested in me as I didn't look as pretty as the other girls.
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Ok hang on, I’m one of the “beautiful people” and I just told my ex boyfriend who’s also quite handsome tonight that I felt lonely. I hate to say this but there’s a certain kind of problem that comes with being a beautiful person, outer, not inner. And consequently it’s how I got into a relationship with someone who interiorly isn’t right for me: “looks”. Now I know I could not compete with someone half my age in the looks department because there’s a certain beauty that comes with youth, so I would say it’s harder to be an older “beautiful “ person. I just read an article about salma Hayek and the pressure to stay thin even though the body changes as it ages… |
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I agree and I would say looks sometimes get in the way of happiness , as I shared previously , I just got out of a relationship with someone who isn’t right for me, there was love and romance , but not happiness, not for me, and both of us are beautiful/handsome people . Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Ouch. I don’t think I will be that harsh but I definitely need someone who’s financially independent in the sense of being a full on adult. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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When I was 15 I was dating a jock and he was sooo cute BUT I soon found out he had the intelligence of a rock. Then I had this epiphany (or at least it seemed like one at 15 lol) If I'm only attracted to someone for their looks or money that someone can be in an accident and be horrifically scarred or that person could have a change of circumstances and lose it all. If I like them for their personality well short of a brain injury or something along those lines that doesn't usually change. So I decided right then and there to do my best to forget about looks and focus on personality.
I'm not saying I don't notice if someone is attractive (in my eyes, to each their own) but if they don't have personality forget it. In my experience liking someone's personality makes them attractive to me. I think I am in the minority though. __________________ I think I need help 'cause I'm drowning in myself. It's sinking in, I can't pretend that I ain't been through hell. I think I need help---Papa Roach |
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It depends on the type of relationship one is seeking. I am now seeking just lovers who are friends. So, for me, a nice build and looks to some extent are important. The dating app online world is rather superficial and most men have chosen me based on my appearance. So, I know this because they keep talking about my appearance initially, instead of my job or personality. I am nice to a certain extent and this seems to be not a factor for some guys. I have been on dating apps off and on for about four years and it is a very superficial world out there. Because of this, I don't recommend online dating apps to anyone. I have been also called fat -one time, after I met the man - I am curvy so this may be called fat. But, I looked at him and he was a short bald fat man himself. I was glad he was turned off by me as I was to him. Most people on the dating apps online use photos that are really old or photoshop their pics. They also lie on their profiles about their age. One man was about 75 and said he was in his 60s.. So, it is highly recommended to meet in person right away to see how the person really looks like in reality and see if there is any chemistry. So far, I have had only one rejection based on looks but have been rejected a few times because I am not from the country I am living in. But, who cares?
I am currently seeing a former soccer player and am satisfied. He is nice and decent as well as tall and well-built. I don't know how it will turn out but so far, he is good to me so I guess although I like his looks, how one treats the other is equally as important. Some people are nice personally and this is great but I'm looking for sparks and fireworks when I meet someone initially. Truthfully, looks are important initially but afterwards, the veneer rubs off and there has to be more than looks to keep a relationship going. So, if someone has both looks and a decent personality, then this is the best combination. Of course, having a decent job and a rather healthy lifestyle are factors too. So, one can't base a relationship on just looks and personality since there are many factors to a good relationship. I sound if I am experienced in relationships but am not. I have had only bad ones so know from my mistakes that I must feel attracted to the person and also get along with him. I'm becoming wiser but so far I have never had a good relationship so take what I say with a grain of salt. |
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So why do I meet success with women ten times easier when I'm in shape?
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#32
Looks fade in time, but who you are, personality etc........is what is important.
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Let me gain few pounds, ignore my skin care routine for two weeks and wear some random clothes and then we'll see how far my confidence's gonna get me |
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Oh and I can still rock a corset. 😋 __________________ You're only given one little spark of madness. You mustn't lose it. ~ Robin Williams Did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage? ~ Pink Floyd |
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When I met my college bf, at first glance he was a short, thin, but cute guy dressed in a leather jacket and punk look (early 80’s) who was carrying on a gambling game in the dorm hallway! I was attracted to both looks and personality equally at once. He was edgy, he was outrageous, different from anyone I had previously known, interesting, and cute and sexy. This was all subjective to my opinion. I agree with the poster who said it depends on what kind of relationship you want. For someone looking only for sex, then physical attraction obviously is most all that is taken into account, I suppose. Maybe if they had a horrid personality, the person wouldn’t even stand them for a one night thing. SarahSweets- I think you enjoy posting a question about a subject that brings about a lively discussion. It’s cool. Opinions are like azzholes, everybody’s got one! __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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#38
Looks are subjective like Tisha said and also looks are very much culturally/ethnically defined. There is no such thing as universally good looks. Even talking about weight, in some cultures heavier set woman is considered much more appealing than a thin one. Some people consider others good looking if their features conform to main stream majority of the population’s standard. And so on and so forth
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#39
To clarify my comment, this only has to do with a marriage partner. I worked in an mostly all male career & got along & enjoyed (& still do), the company & friendship of all kinds of guys. Not many subjects I don't know enough about to have good conversations. Looks has nothing to do with it. Personality does but really if they can have good conversations great. Just not letting anyone into my shared personal space unless they are perfect which is basically saying. NOT LOOKING, NOT INTERESTED
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Well it’s like seeing a room that looks good and everything is fine. Yet it’s not a room that is inviting and cozy and warm. Then there is the room that’s like country cozy with a fire lit that you want to go into and sit down in because it’s warm and inviting. It’s ok if it’s a tad messy because that doesn’t take away from how warm and cozy it is to spend time in and put ones feet up and relax. It is a room that one wants to spend time in verses just looking at where it’s too fancy to sit comfortably in.
A beautiful person is a person who can see you and a person that is comfortable to sit with and perfection doesn’t matter. It’s like that cozy room with a warm fire that is so relaxing and comfy to spend time in. 😉 |
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